Among the children of believers, some also have congenital defects, which may range from mild to severe. In some families, at least one parent must dedicate herself to caring for their child, abandoning normal work and social activities. Over time, this can lead to diverse psychological issues.
For example, one female Christian's daughter was born unable to speak. We once learned that although she could say "dad" and "mom" from a young age, she was now in her twenties and could only speak a few simple words. She could only perform tasks within her abilities and could not be self-reliant in many aspects. Cooking independently and holding a job were virtually impossible for her. She required her parents' assistance to live. Over the past two decades, her family members have given up their careers and traveled far and wide seeking medical solutions for their daughter. Due to economic difficulties, they eventually stopped seeking medical help and instead focused full-time on taking care of their child.
As a family of believers, the female believer also reflected on the situation. Since the whole family believed in God, they should receive blessings, but their daughter encountered such misfortune. They haven't done anything wrong, but their daughter's condition was worse than that of other children. They had been actively seeking medical treatment since discovering their daughter's problem, but she wasn’t cured.
With all these doubts and no timely guidance, she started to doubt her faith and began to blame God. Consequently, after some time had passed since discovering her daughter's issue, she and her husband stopped attending church gatherings. They didn't even go to important festivals, seemingly severing their connection with God. This state of affairs had lasted for over ten years.
Through a chance encounter, we got to know this family and learned about their situation. Upon hearing her talk about her daughter and the struggles with her faith, we expressed empathy and encouraged her to return to the church. We told her that every person was unique in God's eyes and that those who followed God would continue to improve.
After several conversations with her, she brought her daughter back to the church. They rarely missed any gatherings, and her daughter attended events in several churches, particularly enjoying those activities for children. When she participated in these gatherings, she was filled with joy and had an innocent smile on her face.
This Christian woman observed that no one in the church rejected or mocked her daughter but rather welcomed, embraced, and accepted her. Her daughter was also eager to participate in a variety of events, which gradually helped her let go of her previous grievances and dissatisfaction. Instead, she felt like a new convert, rejoining the extended family of God and starting anew.
- Translated by Abigail Wu
信徒的孩子们中有些也有先天性缺陷，可能有轻有重。有些家庭，父母双方至少会有一方要为此专心付出，撇弃正常的工作、社交。而在长时间的操碎中，心态也会出现不同程度的问题。
比如，有一位姊妹的女儿先天不会说话，虽然从小就会喊爸爸、妈妈，但现在已经20多岁仍旧只会讲简单的几个字；二是只能做些力所能及的事，在更多事上无法自食其力。自主烧饭、工作基本不可能，需要父母帮助才能生活下去。在这20多年的时日中，姊妹及其一家人放弃工作，带着女儿到处求医问药；后来因为经济艰难，没再到处求医问药，只是专职在家带着孩子。
作为一个全家人甚至世代信主的家庭，姊妹也会反思：家人都信主，应该得到祝福才是，那为什么女儿会遭遇到如此不幸呢？自己及其家人也没有做过什么坏事，那为什么别人的孩子很好，而她的女儿却比较糟糕呢？自从发现了女儿的问题后，一直都是积极治疗，但为何医治不好呢？
带着种种的疑问与不解，再加上没有得到及时的疏导，姊妹对信仰也产生了怀疑、对上帝产生了埋怨。所以，发现女儿问题一段时间后，姊妹与丈夫就再也不去教会聚会了。即便是重要节日也不去，仿佛与上帝撇清了关系；而且，他们这种状态一直持续了有十多年之久。
一次偶然的机会，我们与这位姊妹相识，得知了他们的情况。听她述说她女儿及信仰处境后，我们在表达出同理心的同时，只能劝其重新回到教会。告诉她每一个人在上帝的眼中都是独一无二的瞳仁，相信跟随上帝的人会越来越好。
在与姊妹数次交谈后，姊妹带其女儿又重新回到了教会中，几乎每次聚会都不缺。其女儿在妈妈的陪伴下参加了好几间教会的聚会，尤其喜爱参加与少儿有关的聚会。她在参加聚会的时候，充满了喜乐、脸上洋溢着纯真的笑容。
姊妹看到了其女儿在教会中没有被人排斥、嘲讽，众人所给予的乃是欢迎与包容和接纳，她的女儿也乐于参与各种聚会，所以，姊妹把之前的一些怨言、不满也渐渐地扔掉了。转而是如同初入教者，重新加入教会的大家庭，一切重新开始。
注：本文为特约/自由撰稿人文章，作者系江苏一名传道人。
因孩子先天缺陷而怪罪上帝的母女“回家”了
Among the children of believers, some also have congenital defects, which may range from mild to severe. In some families, at least one parent must dedicate herself to caring for their child, abandoning normal work and social activities. Over time, this can lead to diverse psychological issues.
For example, one female Christian's daughter was born unable to speak. We once learned that although she could say "dad" and "mom" from a young age, she was now in her twenties and could only speak a few simple words. She could only perform tasks within her abilities and could not be self-reliant in many aspects. Cooking independently and holding a job were virtually impossible for her. She required her parents' assistance to live. Over the past two decades, her family members have given up their careers and traveled far and wide seeking medical solutions for their daughter. Due to economic difficulties, they eventually stopped seeking medical help and instead focused full-time on taking care of their child.
As a family of believers, the female believer also reflected on the situation. Since the whole family believed in God, they should receive blessings, but their daughter encountered such misfortune. They haven't done anything wrong, but their daughter's condition was worse than that of other children. They had been actively seeking medical treatment since discovering their daughter's problem, but she wasn’t cured.
With all these doubts and no timely guidance, she started to doubt her faith and began to blame God. Consequently, after some time had passed since discovering her daughter's issue, she and her husband stopped attending church gatherings. They didn't even go to important festivals, seemingly severing their connection with God. This state of affairs had lasted for over ten years.
Through a chance encounter, we got to know this family and learned about their situation. Upon hearing her talk about her daughter and the struggles with her faith, we expressed empathy and encouraged her to return to the church. We told her that every person was unique in God's eyes and that those who followed God would continue to improve.
After several conversations with her, she brought her daughter back to the church. They rarely missed any gatherings, and her daughter attended events in several churches, particularly enjoying those activities for children. When she participated in these gatherings, she was filled with joy and had an innocent smile on her face.
This Christian woman observed that no one in the church rejected or mocked her daughter but rather welcomed, embraced, and accepted her. Her daughter was also eager to participate in a variety of events, which gradually helped her let go of her previous grievances and dissatisfaction. Instead, she felt like a new convert, rejoining the extended family of God and starting anew.
- Translated by Abigail Wu
Christian Reconciled with God After Long Absence From Church For Child's Birth Defect
