Born in a poor rural area, I worked hard to buy a house and a car by my own efforts.
When my life was getting better and better, I was no longer simple, kind, and aggressive as I used to be.
Later, when I got married and had children, I didn't know how to love my husband and my children as I had a cold and hard heart. Being a lover of myself and the world, I walked in the flesh.
Being corrected by God the Father who loves me, I returned to the church to learn His word.
For many years, I was only a hearer of the word instead of a doer. Though I want to follow the Lord's teachings, my spirit was willing but my flesh was often weak.
In the past ten years of my marriage, it was not easy for me to love and obey my husband. During the Spring Festival this year, I told my story in a monthly sharing meeting at Bethlehem Church. I confessed a sin hidden in my heart for many years, which haunted me for many years and affected my life and my marriage. Many times I wanted to get rid of this sin by asking for help, but it was invalid every time.
Through the meeting, God completely removed the sins that had bound me for many years.
The Bible teaches us that wives should respect and submit to their husbands, which I believe, but I couldn’t practice it in my life.
Sometimes when I heard God’s word, I received it with joy, trying to do it for several days. But I still went my own way and acted as I did before.
Before the Spring Festival this year, the church held a new life class every Thursday night. After attending some courses given by a pastor’s wife who taught us to be obedient to our husbands, I was moved by the Holy Spirit to change my attitude towards my husband and to say more words to encourage, affirm, and build him up, Though I thought so, every time I get through the call, without saying many words, I began to curse him, insult him, and destroy him.
Last year, I tried to participate in the morning prayer meeting of the church every day, praying that God could help me love my husband and children. After praying for a long period of time, by the end of last year, God really changed me, making the impossible possible.
After the Spring Festival this year, my husband went back to Beijing on the second day of the first lunar month and never came back due to the epidemic. In the past few months, we talked with him by WeChat and phone with prayers together. First, I occasionally complained and blamed him, still with dissatisfaction with him even later. When I realized that I was going to complain, I stopped chatting but prayed immediately, asking God to help me not to complain. During this time, I learned to pour out my heart before God, coming out of the dark cloud into the light.
Now, every time I call my husband, I have learned not to complain but to obey my husband, without attacking him, abusing him, or making him sad.
One morning, the wife of a pastor taught us about the scripture of 1 Peter 2:18, "Slaves, submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and considerate but also to those who are harsh."
Sharing what I had learned in the morning prayer meeting, I said to the children, "We must all learn to fear and obey God. In the future, I will also submit to your father at home." Then my mind got released.
During the time when my husband was away, as Bethlehem Church didn’t host morning prayer meetings in March, I lead the children to study the Bible Psalms every morning. Together we pray and share God's love and our understanding of the verses, with the relationship with my children becoming closer and closer.
(The author is the lecturer of the "Smart Parents Training Camp" and the initiator of the Home-School Co-education Smart Parents Training Camp)
- Translated by Abigail Wu
因为从小出生在贫穷的农村，所以我努力认真地对待自己的每一份工作。我通过自己的努力买了房和车。
当我收入稳定，不再为个人温饱问题发愁的时候，我离曾经那个单纯善良、积极进取的我也越来越远。
后来，我结婚了，有了家庭有了孩子，我的心冷漠刚硬，我不懂得爱丈夫，爱孩子，我的心里只有我自己。我贪爱世界，凭着血气行事。
感谢主，我是神的孩子，神所爱的他必管教。在我们神诸多的管教之下，我乖乖地回到教会，开始学习领受神的道。
虽然信主很多年了，我都只听道不行道。我不是不愿意照着主的教导去生活，而是我心里愿意肉体却常常软弱。
在我走进婚姻的十多年时间里，我一直认为爱丈夫、顺服丈夫，对于我来说，实在是一件很难的事情。感谢主，就在今年春节的时候，在教会的见证分享会上，我大胆地分享了我的不幸福的婚姻，还有深藏在我内心深处很多年的一个罪。那个罪真的缠累了我很多年，也一直深深地影响着我的生活和婚姻。很多次，我很想摆脱这个罪，我也曾尝试过寻求帮助，但每次结果总是让我很失望。
感恩的是来到伯利恒教会之后，教会每个月都有见证分享会。在今年过年的那次见证分享会上，神带领我勇敢地在神和弟兄姊妹们面前分享了我内心深处的罪，通过那次真实的分享，神彻底除去了捆绑我多年的罪。
圣经上教导我们，你们做妻子的当敬重、顺服自己的丈夫。神的道我很喜欢，可是在生活中我就是行不出来。
有时候听了神的道，我当时 欢喜领受，回到家我也愿意学习尝试照着做。可是每次都坚持时间不长，总是没过几天就被打回原形，在生活中依然我行我素。
在今年春节之前的一段时间，伯利恒教会每周四晚上有新生活课程的学习，有几天晚上师母带领我们再次学习妻子当顺服丈夫的课程。我在学习的时候心里火热，被圣灵感动，愿意悔改自己，愿意改变对丈夫的态度。很多次，在我想要给丈夫打电话之前，我告诉自己要多说鼓励他、建造他、肯定他的话语。我心里是这么想的，可是每次电话一打通，我们还没说两句，我嘴里出来的话语都变成咒诅他、辱骂他、攻击他、摧毁他的话语
去年教会每天早晨有晨祷，我喜欢学习神的道，所以我尽量每天参加教会的晨祷学习。2022年春节前的一段时间，我在晨祷时常常祷告求神帮助我、改变我，使我能够学会爱丈夫、爱儿女。这样重复的祷告持续了很长一段时间之后，到今年年后这段时间，神真的彰显神迹在我的身上，神真的把不可能变为可能。
今年过完春节，正月初二我丈夫就回北京去了，因为疫情的原因一直没回来过。这几个月我们只能通过微信、电话联系。现在，我们每次打电话联系的时候，更多的是一起祷告神。在他刚离开家的时候，有几次打电话聊天，偶尔我还会对他有抱怨和指责。后来，再打电话的时候，我心里还会对他有不满意，当我觉察到自己要有怨言时，我学会立刻终止聊天，立刻祷告，求神帮助我不要发怨言。这段时间，我学会在神面前倾心吐意，我学会把我的心意完全陈明在神面前。当我祷告完之后，我心里的乌云和不快就散去了，我的心情立时就被神完全地改变了，我的生活就又恢复了正常。
感谢主！现在，我每次给丈夫打电话的时候，我不再说攻击他、辱骂他、伤害他、让他难过的话语了。现在，我真的学会不发怨言，顺服丈夫了。
今天早上晨祷时，师母带领我们学习的经文是彼得前书2:18“你们作仆人的，凡事要存敬畏的心顺服主人，不但顺服那善良温和的，就是那乖僻的也要顺服。”我又想到：早上听完师母的分享，我又带着三个孩子一起讨论分享我们早上学习的内容。我对孩子们说：“我们都要敬畏神，学习顺服。以后，在家里我也要学习听你爸爸的，完全地顺服丈夫。”想到这里，我的心灵立刻得释放，心情又变得轻松起来。
在丈夫不在家的那段时间，3月份伯利恒教会也没有晨祷。我就每天早晨5:30带领孩子们一起学习圣经诗篇。我们一起祷告、读经，分享神的爱和我们对经文内容的理解。在我带领孩子们一起学习圣经的那段时间，我和孩子们的关系更融洽、和睦了
（路云姐妹为“智慧父母训练营”讲师，家校共育智慧父母训练营发起人）
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路云姐妹的信仰与家庭见证
Born in a poor rural area, I worked hard to buy a house and a car by my own efforts.
When my life was getting better and better, I was no longer simple, kind, and aggressive as I used to be.
Later, when I got married and had children, I didn't know how to love my husband and my children as I had a cold and hard heart. Being a lover of myself and the world, I walked in the flesh.
Being corrected by God the Father who loves me, I returned to the church to learn His word.
For many years, I was only a hearer of the word instead of a doer. Though I want to follow the Lord's teachings, my spirit was willing but my flesh was often weak.
In the past ten years of my marriage, it was not easy for me to love and obey my husband. During the Spring Festival this year, I told my story in a monthly sharing meeting at Bethlehem Church. I confessed a sin hidden in my heart for many years, which haunted me for many years and affected my life and my marriage. Many times I wanted to get rid of this sin by asking for help, but it was invalid every time.
Through the meeting, God completely removed the sins that had bound me for many years.
The Bible teaches us that wives should respect and submit to their husbands, which I believe, but I couldn’t practice it in my life.
Sometimes when I heard God’s word, I received it with joy, trying to do it for several days. But I still went my own way and acted as I did before.
Before the Spring Festival this year, the church held a new life class every Thursday night. After attending some courses given by a pastor’s wife who taught us to be obedient to our husbands, I was moved by the Holy Spirit to change my attitude towards my husband and to say more words to encourage, affirm, and build him up, Though I thought so, every time I get through the call, without saying many words, I began to curse him, insult him, and destroy him.
Last year, I tried to participate in the morning prayer meeting of the church every day, praying that God could help me love my husband and children. After praying for a long period of time, by the end of last year, God really changed me, making the impossible possible.
After the Spring Festival this year, my husband went back to Beijing on the second day of the first lunar month and never came back due to the epidemic. In the past few months, we talked with him by WeChat and phone with prayers together. First, I occasionally complained and blamed him, still with dissatisfaction with him even later. When I realized that I was going to complain, I stopped chatting but prayed immediately, asking God to help me not to complain. During this time, I learned to pour out my heart before God, coming out of the dark cloud into the light.
Now, every time I call my husband, I have learned not to complain but to obey my husband, without attacking him, abusing him, or making him sad.
One morning, the wife of a pastor taught us about the scripture of 1 Peter 2:18, "Slaves, submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and considerate but also to those who are harsh."
Sharing what I had learned in the morning prayer meeting, I said to the children, "We must all learn to fear and obey God. In the future, I will also submit to your father at home." Then my mind got released.
During the time when my husband was away, as Bethlehem Church didn’t host morning prayer meetings in March, I lead the children to study the Bible Psalms every morning. Together we pray and share God's love and our understanding of the verses, with the relationship with my children becoming closer and closer.
(The author is the lecturer of the "Smart Parents Training Camp" and the initiator of the Home-School Co-education Smart Parents Training Camp)
- Translated by Abigail Wu
Female Believer Submits to Husband After Prayers
