Editor’s note: Sister Wang, born in Songyuan, Jilin Province, followed her grandmother to the church at a young age. Studying abroad in the U.K, she hit rock bottom in the difficult year of 2020. Her mother suffered from a strange disease, pushing her into the valley of the shadow of death. But God worked in her family through the issue.
Her parents stay with her paternal mother, while she and her younger brother live separately in other places. Her mother, who is emotional and sensitive, hardly received a response from her aloof father. The common Chinese family problem seemingly lies in the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law. Coupled with the harsh couple’s relationship, her mother suffered from a mental disorder which was difficult to notice in the family.
Below is the story of Wang:
In January 2020, I returned from the UK to China to celebrate the Chinese Lunar New Year with my family. I stayed at home for three months due to the COVID-19 pandemic, but I found my mother was different from normal.
She fetched an egg from a chicken's coop, suspecting that my grandmother poisoned it with a watermark. Then she was looking for evidence to prove it, starting to follow my grandmother and secretly observe her every move.
Her movement attracted the attention of my grandmother. They had a quarrel, aggravating their broken relationship. My grandmother then moved to live with my aunt.
Considering the fact that she just had a problem with my mother, we thought that she entered into menopause. We took her to see a Chinese doctor and to get some Chinese medicine to help with her health condition.
Two months later, I went to Shenzhen as the pandemic subsided. My parents farmed at home. With a deep affection for my grandmother, my father who complained about her departure started to unwittingly give my mother the cold shoulder.
Without saying a word to my mother, he slept or watched TV at home or went out for a walk.
After half a year, the mental condition of my mother was exacerbated. She stopped eating, worried that my father had poisoned her meals. She did not eat anything my father touched.
Reluctantly, the family sent her to a psychiatric hospital where she said that she, while being forcibly tied to a bed, was fed with medicine. She was frightened, but within hours; fortunately, she was discharged soon after .
Then my family hired a Shamanic practitioner to interact with the spirit world to seek healing. During that time, my mother fell unconscious once the shaman beat a drum.
Seeing my mother’s ghastly pale face with the bones in the chest sticking out, I smelled odor from her who was lying there without having any food or water.
I played Christian hymns and sermons to her, but my family persecuted me. My mother refused to eat anything, and after a while, she stuffed the rice into her mouth until she vomited it out. Then she cried out to God to save her.
Seeing she lost her mind, the family agreed to let me introduce God to her as long as she could recover from the madness.
Knowing this, my aunt paid a visit to my mother. On that day, we prayed together rather than eat. Seeing that my mother recovered significantly, my father and younger brother prayed to accept Jesus as their savior. We removed the idols that were stored at home to bless my parents’ business.
My mother suffered such symptoms resulting from not only spiritual problems but also damaged nerves. Grievances accumulated for years failed to find an outlet, growing into a disease. An authoritative doctor diagnosed her with persecutory delusion. She was hospitalized for half a month and returned home in a stable condition.
My father changed a lot, starting to show concern for her and listened to her. He confessed to her that our family could not live without her.
- Translated by Karen Luo
题记：王姊妹，吉林松原人，从小跟着奶奶信仰。目前在英国留学。2020年在大家都很艰难的一年，王姊妹经历了她人生的低谷。因为妈妈的一场病，将她推向了死阴的幽谷。但神也借此在她的家人中做工，使原本缺少爱的家庭有了爱的流动。
王姊妹一家五口人，父母和奶奶常年居家，她和弟弟都在外地。母亲是一个情感丰富且有些敏感的人，而父亲在情感上面却比较冷漠，很多时候母亲向父亲说了心里话，却得到不到回应。而奶奶与母亲之间也有些摩擦，婆媳关系仿佛是每个家庭的症结。久而久之，当夫妻关系阻塞，婆媳关系又得不到疏通时，王姊妹的母亲原本敏锐的情感变得异常脆弱，以致后面出现精神疾病，而母亲的病情及需要，对于这个家庭来说，却是难以察觉的。
以下是王姊妹的叙述：
一、 母亲病情突显，误以为是更年期
2020年一月份从英国回家过年，因为疫情在家待了三个月的时间，在这期间我发现母亲和以往有些不一样。母亲拿着刚从鸡窝里捡出来鸡蛋，说上面有水印，怀疑是奶奶下了毒，于是就各种找证据，开始跟踪奶奶，站在窗户外边偷偷关注奶奶的举动。
母亲的举动也引起了奶奶的注意，两人为此吵了一架，加剧了原就破裂的关系，奶奶就搬到姑姑家住了。
由于当时母亲只是针对奶奶，平时她情绪也有些不稳定，家人以为她是更年期，刚好赶在这个时期爆发了吧。于是家人就带着她去镇上看了中医，抓了一些调理更年期的中药。
二、 奶奶搬离老家，母亲被冷落致病情加重
三月份的时候，疫情有些好转，因为一些事情，我去了深圳。这个期间父亲和母亲一起在家种地。
从父母农忙时，家里大事小情都是奶奶照看。父亲对奶奶感情深厚，对于奶奶的离开，在情感上父亲始终没有办法面对母亲，所以他心里对母亲有一些埋怨，开始有意无意冷落母亲。父亲在家时要么睡觉、看电视，要么就是出去溜达，就是不跟母亲说话。
母亲病情加重是在8月15号，从不吃饭开始，也怀疑父亲给她下了毒，凡是父亲碰过的东西她都不吃了。
三、 急病乱投医，母亲备受折磨
母亲在家折腾几天，病情不见好转，看哪哪是药，无奈之下家人把母亲送到精神病院。封闭照看了几个小时，母亲一直在哭，二姨不忍心，就把母亲接出来了。
短短的几个小时，母亲受了很多惊吓。后来母亲和我说，当时有人拿绳子把她绑在床上，喂她吃药。她很害怕，她看到其他人吃完药就像傻子一样坐在那里，她不想变成那样，如果那样还不如死了。
母亲被接出来后，家人又找了跳大神的来（家里很多人没有信仰，多数是拜偶像的），这个期间母亲遭受了很多的折磨，那个人一敲鼓，她就抽过去了。
我从深圳回来，看到母亲躺在床上，面部铁青，胸前的骨头凸了出来，她已经好久没有好好吃饭了，不喝水，不梳洗，整个人像疯子一样，躺在那里身上散发着臭味。家人都在她身边，但都没有办法。
四、 全家走投无路，母亲主动呼求神
看着躺在床上日渐消瘦的母亲，内心很难过，在向上帝祷告的同时，也寻求很多牧者的帮助。我躺在母亲身边给给她听赞美诗和讲道，表姐抢走了我的耳机，她说跳大神的说了，36天内不能接触丧事、喜事和信主的，我自己信可以但不要带着我妈。家人逼迫不让我带着妈妈信仰。回家几天我已没有力气，在这个环境下我没有办法祷告，氛围压抑，感觉置身在黑暗中没有出路。
母亲自己备受折磨的同时，把身边的人也折磨的够呛。表姐每天换样儿给母亲做饭，但她就是不肯吃。一天家人强逼着她吃，母亲反应很强烈，但没一会她却放弃了反抗，说死就死吧，于是就大口大口往自己嘴里塞饭，直到把自己吃吐了。然后就跑到沙发上大声痛哭向神祷告，求神救救她。
她说，“神呐，我这辈子对不起你，没有服侍你，但是让我的女儿服侍你吧。”别人都觉得她彻底疯了，拿她没有办法。我看到母亲自己都知道呼喊神了，我就跑到沙发那，抱着她给她唱赞美诗，脑子里能想到的，一遍一遍给她唱，一点点她安静下来了。家人看到母亲好转，就说“不管信啥能把你妈信好就行”。
五、 母亲病情好转，全家信主
母亲好了没多久又开始反复。远方姨奶家的姑姑是基督徒，她得知情况后，来看望母亲，并带着我们一家人做了祷告。姑姑在的这一天，我们除了吃饭就是祷告，很快母亲状况得到了改善，开始下厨房做饭切水果招待姑姑。父亲和弟弟看到母亲好转了，就跟着姑姑做了决志祷告。我和父亲一起把家里之前做生意时存放的偶像处理了。
母亲之所以出现了这样的症状，不单单是属灵上面的问题，她的神经也确实受损了。因为常年累积的怨气，没有办法发泄，久致成伤。后来，有牧者建议我们带母亲去医院好好检查一下。我们带着母亲去了一家权威的神经科医院，医生说母亲得的是被害妄想症，给她开了些药，在医院调理了半个月的时间，情况稳定就回家了。
起初对于回家我们一直很恐惧，因为母亲在最开始犯病后就不在自己家住了，她不愿意回家住，中途母亲好过几次，但每次一提到回家她就很反抗，也许是这个家给她留下很多不好的印象和伤害。
母亲生了这个病后，父亲改变了很多，开始主动关心她，听她说话，体贴她的心情。也主动和母亲告白了很多，说这个家不能没有她。
藉着母亲的一场疾病 神翻转改变了一家人！
Editor’s note: Sister Wang, born in Songyuan, Jilin Province, followed her grandmother to the church at a young age. Studying abroad in the U.K, she hit rock bottom in the difficult year of 2020. Her mother suffered from a strange disease, pushing her into the valley of the shadow of death. But God worked in her family through the issue.
Her parents stay with her paternal mother, while she and her younger brother live separately in other places. Her mother, who is emotional and sensitive, hardly received a response from her aloof father. The common Chinese family problem seemingly lies in the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law. Coupled with the harsh couple’s relationship, her mother suffered from a mental disorder which was difficult to notice in the family.
Below is the story of Wang:
In January 2020, I returned from the UK to China to celebrate the Chinese Lunar New Year with my family. I stayed at home for three months due to the COVID-19 pandemic, but I found my mother was different from normal.
She fetched an egg from a chicken's coop, suspecting that my grandmother poisoned it with a watermark. Then she was looking for evidence to prove it, starting to follow my grandmother and secretly observe her every move.
Her movement attracted the attention of my grandmother. They had a quarrel, aggravating their broken relationship. My grandmother then moved to live with my aunt.
Considering the fact that she just had a problem with my mother, we thought that she entered into menopause. We took her to see a Chinese doctor and to get some Chinese medicine to help with her health condition.
Two months later, I went to Shenzhen as the pandemic subsided. My parents farmed at home. With a deep affection for my grandmother, my father who complained about her departure started to unwittingly give my mother the cold shoulder.
Without saying a word to my mother, he slept or watched TV at home or went out for a walk.
After half a year, the mental condition of my mother was exacerbated. She stopped eating, worried that my father had poisoned her meals. She did not eat anything my father touched.
Reluctantly, the family sent her to a psychiatric hospital where she said that she, while being forcibly tied to a bed, was fed with medicine. She was frightened, but within hours; fortunately, she was discharged soon after .
Then my family hired a Shamanic practitioner to interact with the spirit world to seek healing. During that time, my mother fell unconscious once the shaman beat a drum.
Seeing my mother’s ghastly pale face with the bones in the chest sticking out, I smelled odor from her who was lying there without having any food or water.
I played Christian hymns and sermons to her, but my family persecuted me. My mother refused to eat anything, and after a while, she stuffed the rice into her mouth until she vomited it out. Then she cried out to God to save her.
Seeing she lost her mind, the family agreed to let me introduce God to her as long as she could recover from the madness.
Knowing this, my aunt paid a visit to my mother. On that day, we prayed together rather than eat. Seeing that my mother recovered significantly, my father and younger brother prayed to accept Jesus as their savior. We removed the idols that were stored at home to bless my parents’ business.
My mother suffered such symptoms resulting from not only spiritual problems but also damaged nerves. Grievances accumulated for years failed to find an outlet, growing into a disease. An authoritative doctor diagnosed her with persecutory delusion. She was hospitalized for half a month and returned home in a stable condition.
My father changed a lot, starting to show concern for her and listened to her. He confessed to her that our family could not live without her.
- Translated by Karen Luo
God Transform My Family Through My Mother's Mental Disorder
