As the saying goes, "Marriage is the grave of love". But is it really so?
As the world increasingly develops, reports tell us that the marriage rate is gradually decreasing, while the divorce rate is gradually increasing. We advocate for freedom in marriage and choose not to make sacrifices in a marriage, but we also lose the most basic aspects of marriage, namely love and affection.
In sharing, Christian celebrity Will Liu mentioned that "Love is very important in marriage."
Before marriage, the Taiwanese singer, dancer and composer was a natural, handsome, talented man in good physical shape, and could easily attract women. Therefore, he had had relationships with many women, none of which lasted long. This made him doubt marriage, as he did not know whether or not to get married.
Vivi Wang, his present wife, grew up in a divorced family. The environment made the model feel that marriage was dispensable, that love would not last forever, and that there was no love that lasted a lifetime. "Anyway, you can get married and get divorced again. There's nothing to insist on a marriage." Therefore, she felt no need to be serious about the idea of marriage when a couple began to get to know each other. As soon as something went wrong, Vivi would choose to break up.
After two or three years, their relationship entered a make-or-break-it period and Liu wanted to leave to study in Vancouver. However, unexpectedly prior to his leaving, he went to a church. After that, his life changed.
"Through the teaching of the Bible and the help of the pastors, my concept of love began to change. I began to know myself in the process, and clearly realized how I should live. I needed to understand my calling and role. Otherwise, what was my reason for being in the world?" said Liu.
Once, after listening to a recording of a program, he was involved in a serious car accident. He thought that if he had died, his life would be deemed empty.
So, when he came to the church, he decided to "give my life to God, and let God teach me how to live and what is the value of life."
Vivi's biggest change happened after she came to the church and it was about changing her misconception about love.
First, God healed her concern about Will's past relationships. She revealed, "I used to quarrel a lot with him about his past. Who did you go out with?' I only knew about his previous love affairs after they were published in the news."
While in prayer, God asked her, "Which is more important, me or Will’s past?" It was the first time that she heard the voice of God. She replied respectfully, "Of course, you are more important. Who can be more important than God?!" Then God said, "From now on, you need to know me well." After that, Vivi decided to follow God and her concern for Will’s past has been taken away.
Secondly, God healed Vivi’s hurt from her own family. One time she attended a church lecture on marriage where everyone was very happy except her. In prayer she questioned God. "Why do you put so many people into happy families, while I suffer? I think you are an unjust God."
God said to her, "You can't decide who your parents are, but you can create your own future. As long as you follow me and continue to strive to know me, I will return a double happiness to you over what you have lost."
Vivi was immediately relieved, feeling that God was true and that He was real. She shared, "I am able to have a happy family now with three children. I feel that I am in a happy family, every day is like Canaan."
- Translated by Oliver Zuo
常有一句话说“婚姻是爱情的坟墓”，但是婚姻真的是爱情的坟墓吗？
现代社会越来越发达，可是却有很多报告显示结婚率在逐渐降低，而离婚率却在逐渐升高？大家越来越提倡婚姻自由，越来越多的人选择开始不再婚姻中选择牺牲自我，但这一个过程中却也失去了婚姻中最原始的一些爱和感动。
在一次见证中，刘畊宏提到了：“婚姻中，爱很重要。”
婚前，刘畊宏是一个潇洒、帅气、有才气、身材又好的人，这很容易吸引女生。因此他交往过的人有很多，但是每一段感觉交往时间都不会很长。这让他产生对自己的婚姻产生了怀疑，不知道是否要进入婚姻。
而妻子王婉霏成长在一个离异家庭，这样的家庭环境让她觉得婚姻是可有可无的事情，爱情也不会存到永远，也不相信会有一辈子的爱。“反正结婚也可以再离婚，这有什么好坚持的。”所以，两个人认识的时候，王婉霏觉得没有必要认真，只要一感觉苗头不对，王婉霏就会选择离开（分手）。
他们两个人交往2-3年后便进入了瓶颈期，刘畊宏想要选择离开去温哥华读书。但是没有想到的是，他在去温哥华之前来了教会。自此，他的生命有了改变。
“通过圣经的教导、牧师的帮助，开始改变我对爱的观念。在过程中认识了我自己，让我清楚的认识到原来我到底该怎么活。我需要明白自己的呼召和角色，不然我为什么要来到世界上。”
一次节目录制结束后，他出了很严重的车祸。那时他想，如果自己死了，自己空虚的一生到底要怎么办？
所以，当他进入教会，他决定：“把自己的一生交给上帝，让上帝教导我到底该怎么活，人生的价值到底是什么。”
而王婉霏一进入教会最大的改变就是医治了她对爱的错误观念。
其一，上帝医治了她对于刘畊宏过去感情经历的在意。
“我以前和他最常吵架的地方就是他的过去。‘你和谁过去在一起？’我每次都是在新闻报纸出来才会知道（他以前的恋情）。”
在一次祷告中，她听到上帝说：“你觉得是我比较重要，还是刘畊宏的过去比较重要。”那是王婉霏第一次听到上帝的声音，她恭敬的回答：“当然是你比较重要，还有什么比上帝更重要的呢！”当下上帝就说：“从今以后，你要好好地认识我。”自此，王婉霏就决定要好好地认识上帝，而她对于刘畊宏过去的在意，也被上帝拿走了。
其二，上帝医治了王婉霏在原生家庭所受到的伤害。
有一次，她在参加教会的婚姻讲座时，大家都非常高兴只有王婉霏一个人非常的生气。她在祷告中质疑上帝：“为什么这世界上这么多的人，你都把他们放在幸福的家庭中，而我没有？我觉得你是一个非常不公平的上帝。”
而上帝对她说：“你不能决定你的父母，但是你可以创造你的未来。只要你好好的跟随我，不停地认识我，我会把你曾经失去的加倍还给你。”
当下，王婉霏就释怀了。她觉得上帝真是又真又活的。她分享说：“我如今能够家庭幸福，拥有3个孩子，我觉得我每一天都在幸福的家庭里面——迦南美地。”
刘畊宏夫妇的见证分享| 婚姻的迦南美地
As the saying goes, "Marriage is the grave of love". But is it really so?
As the world increasingly develops, reports tell us that the marriage rate is gradually decreasing, while the divorce rate is gradually increasing. We advocate for freedom in marriage and choose not to make sacrifices in a marriage, but we also lose the most basic aspects of marriage, namely love and affection.
In sharing, Christian celebrity Will Liu mentioned that "Love is very important in marriage."
Before marriage, the Taiwanese singer, dancer and composer was a natural, handsome, talented man in good physical shape, and could easily attract women. Therefore, he had had relationships with many women, none of which lasted long. This made him doubt marriage, as he did not know whether or not to get married.
Vivi Wang, his present wife, grew up in a divorced family. The environment made the model feel that marriage was dispensable, that love would not last forever, and that there was no love that lasted a lifetime. "Anyway, you can get married and get divorced again. There's nothing to insist on a marriage." Therefore, she felt no need to be serious about the idea of marriage when a couple began to get to know each other. As soon as something went wrong, Vivi would choose to break up.
After two or three years, their relationship entered a make-or-break-it period and Liu wanted to leave to study in Vancouver. However, unexpectedly prior to his leaving, he went to a church. After that, his life changed.
"Through the teaching of the Bible and the help of the pastors, my concept of love began to change. I began to know myself in the process, and clearly realized how I should live. I needed to understand my calling and role. Otherwise, what was my reason for being in the world?" said Liu.
Once, after listening to a recording of a program, he was involved in a serious car accident. He thought that if he had died, his life would be deemed empty.
So, when he came to the church, he decided to "give my life to God, and let God teach me how to live and what is the value of life."
Vivi's biggest change happened after she came to the church and it was about changing her misconception about love.
First, God healed her concern about Will's past relationships. She revealed, "I used to quarrel a lot with him about his past. Who did you go out with?' I only knew about his previous love affairs after they were published in the news."
While in prayer, God asked her, "Which is more important, me or Will’s past?" It was the first time that she heard the voice of God. She replied respectfully, "Of course, you are more important. Who can be more important than God?!" Then God said, "From now on, you need to know me well." After that, Vivi decided to follow God and her concern for Will’s past has been taken away.
Secondly, God healed Vivi’s hurt from her own family. One time she attended a church lecture on marriage where everyone was very happy except her. In prayer she questioned God. "Why do you put so many people into happy families, while I suffer? I think you are an unjust God."
God said to her, "You can't decide who your parents are, but you can create your own future. As long as you follow me and continue to strive to know me, I will return a double happiness to you over what you have lost."
Vivi was immediately relieved, feeling that God was true and that He was real. She shared, "I am able to have a happy family now with three children. I feel that I am in a happy family, every day is like Canaan."
- Translated by Oliver Zuo
Christian Celebrity Will Liu’s Marriage Testimony
