On this Thanksgiving Day, I look back and count the blessings of God.
Thinking of the fact that I can see today, I have a healthy body, I can go to work and return home safely every day, I feel very grateful. It does not matter if my daughter gets a little rebellious sometimes, and I occasionally have some friction with my husband, but that is not the point.
Over the years, reflecting on my first failed marriage, I can now see my many faults. I got married based on feelings of excitement, despite opposition from my family, only to discover after marriage that our personalities were completely different, and my childish thinking that I could change my husband. In the end, we could not complete our marriage journey. The failure of my first marriage was a great blow to me, but in the most painful days, I experienced God first-hand.
Once, I became so miserable that I wanted to end my own life! At that time, I was alone at home, forgetting my elderly parents and my young daughter, and just thinking about the pain I was going through. Just then, the doorbell rang. A sister from the church had arrived unannounced because she had feelings of unrest while she prayed for me that morning. There was always a voice reminding her to keep me company. I rested in her arms and cried for a long time.
Later, she said she did not know I was not at work, but had dropped the kids off at school, and thought to stop by. Thank God, in that period of almost two years, there were many such experiences.
It was not until I met my current husband that I realized that marriage was built on an equal relationship, and knew what it meant to be loved, respected, and cared for. Although he did not make much money, at least we could take care of basic needs like food and clothing. Even though he could not cook, he never let me clean up after dinner. There is no feeling of nervousness and fear when I am around him. My ex-husband was hardly present at home, and every time he came home, he criticized me before my parents endlessly, but my current husband understands my worth.
I also thank God, He gave me a smart and lovely daughter, even though sometimes she is quite willful and talks back at me, but she is very transparent and happy. When she sees me every day, she does not stop talking and tells me everything that happens to her. When I was sick, she bought medicines for me, cooked for me, and took care of me. Her self-care ability is also very strong, when I go on business trips, she organizes herself, during the summer and winter holidays she prepares her meals and does her assignments herself. Although she is only 11 years old, there are many things I do not have to worry about now.
One night in July this year, I woke up from a sudden pain and rushed to the toilet. The intense pain in my stomach made me sweat instantly, and I almost passed out several times. That night my husband was on a night shift at work, and I was alone at home with my daughter, there was no one to help me.
At that time, I did not even have the strength to stand up and get the phone. In a few minutes, my clothes were soaked and sweat dripped from my hair and face. I tried my best to call my daughter, and on the third time, she came running.
It was past 1 o'clock in the midnight, and I had dialed 120 for 30 minutes, at which point I could only rely on the Lord Jesus. I did my best and kept calling, "Jesus save me, Jesus save me." I do not know how many times I called, the pain slowly subsided, then I got up from the toilet, and knew the Lord had healed me. I got up the next morning and went to work like nothing happened.
- Translated by Nonye Nancy
在这感恩节的日子里，我回首数算神的恩典。
想到自己能有今天，能有一个健康的身体，能每天平安的上班，平安的回到家中就很感恩。即便女儿偶尔有一些小叛逆，和丈夫之间偶尔有一些小摩擦，但这些又算得了什么呢。
这么多年来，反思第一段失败的婚姻，也看到自己的很多问题。结婚是自己的一时冲动，不顾家人的反对，婚后才知道两个人性格完全不同，而自己幼稚的以为靠自己可以来改变对方。最终两个人还是没能走到最后，婚姻的失败对我的打击非常大，但是在那段最痛苦的日子，我却亲身经历了神。
有一次，我痛苦到想要结束自己的生命！当时只有自己一个人在家，忘记了年迈的父母，忘记了年幼的女儿，只想着我这样太痛苦了。正在这时候，门铃响了，教会的一个姐姐不约而至，因为她早上晨祷，在为我祷告的时候，心里很不平安，总有一个声音提醒她来陪陪我。我抱她在她怀里哭了很长时间。
过后她说，她也不知道我没上班，但把孩子送到学校后，就想着要来我家看看。感谢神，在那将近两年的时间里，这样的经历非常多。
直到我认识现在的丈夫，我才明白婚姻是建立在平等的关系上，我才知道什么是真正地被爱、被尊重，被呵护。他虽然没有挣很多的钱，但最起码我们衣食无忧；他虽然不会做饭，但饭后收拾打扫从来不让我插手。和现在的爱人相处，没有那种紧张害怕的感觉。而前夫以前不经常在家，但他每次回家，他当着父母无休止的指责，而现在的丈夫懂得我的付出。
感谢神也赐给我一个聪明可爱的女儿，她现在虽然有时也很任性，会和我顶嘴，但她却很阳光快乐。她每天看到我，嘴巴就说个不停，她会把发生在她身上的一切事情告诉我；在我生病的时候，她会为我买药、会为我做饭、会照顾我的一切。并且她的自理能力也很强，出差的时候她自己在家安排自己的生活起居；寒暑假里，她一个人在家做饭；作业独立完成等等。虽然她只有11岁，现在很多事情都不用我太操心。
今年7月的一天夜里，我突然从一阵疼痛中惊醒，赶快往厕所跑，肚子剧烈的疼痛使我瞬间汗流满面，疼的几次都要晕过去，当天夜里爱人在单位上夜班，只有女儿和我在家，这时谁也帮不上我。
当时，我连站起来去拿手机的力气都没有，不到几分钟，衣服已经湿透，头发上，脸上的汗水往下滴，我用尽力气，呼叫着女儿，第三次时，她才跑来。
当时1点多，打120也要快半个小时，现在我唯一能依靠的只有主耶稣，我就用尽力气不停的呼叫着，“耶稣救我，耶稣救我。”不知道呼叫了多少次，疼痛慢慢减轻，之后才从厕所站起来，但我知道主已经医治了我。第二天早上起床跟个没事人一样去上班。
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走过失败的婚姻，经历主奇妙的保守——温姊妹的感恩见证
On this Thanksgiving Day, I look back and count the blessings of God.
Thinking of the fact that I can see today, I have a healthy body, I can go to work and return home safely every day, I feel very grateful. It does not matter if my daughter gets a little rebellious sometimes, and I occasionally have some friction with my husband, but that is not the point.
Over the years, reflecting on my first failed marriage, I can now see my many faults. I got married based on feelings of excitement, despite opposition from my family, only to discover after marriage that our personalities were completely different, and my childish thinking that I could change my husband. In the end, we could not complete our marriage journey. The failure of my first marriage was a great blow to me, but in the most painful days, I experienced God first-hand.
Once, I became so miserable that I wanted to end my own life! At that time, I was alone at home, forgetting my elderly parents and my young daughter, and just thinking about the pain I was going through. Just then, the doorbell rang. A sister from the church had arrived unannounced because she had feelings of unrest while she prayed for me that morning. There was always a voice reminding her to keep me company. I rested in her arms and cried for a long time.
Later, she said she did not know I was not at work, but had dropped the kids off at school, and thought to stop by. Thank God, in that period of almost two years, there were many such experiences.
It was not until I met my current husband that I realized that marriage was built on an equal relationship, and knew what it meant to be loved, respected, and cared for. Although he did not make much money, at least we could take care of basic needs like food and clothing. Even though he could not cook, he never let me clean up after dinner. There is no feeling of nervousness and fear when I am around him. My ex-husband was hardly present at home, and every time he came home, he criticized me before my parents endlessly, but my current husband understands my worth.
I also thank God, He gave me a smart and lovely daughter, even though sometimes she is quite willful and talks back at me, but she is very transparent and happy. When she sees me every day, she does not stop talking and tells me everything that happens to her. When I was sick, she bought medicines for me, cooked for me, and took care of me. Her self-care ability is also very strong, when I go on business trips, she organizes herself, during the summer and winter holidays she prepares her meals and does her assignments herself. Although she is only 11 years old, there are many things I do not have to worry about now.
One night in July this year, I woke up from a sudden pain and rushed to the toilet. The intense pain in my stomach made me sweat instantly, and I almost passed out several times. That night my husband was on a night shift at work, and I was alone at home with my daughter, there was no one to help me.
At that time, I did not even have the strength to stand up and get the phone. In a few minutes, my clothes were soaked and sweat dripped from my hair and face. I tried my best to call my daughter, and on the third time, she came running.
It was past 1 o'clock in the midnight, and I had dialed 120 for 30 minutes, at which point I could only rely on the Lord Jesus. I did my best and kept calling, "Jesus save me, Jesus save me." I do not know how many times I called, the pain slowly subsided, then I got up from the toilet, and knew the Lord had healed me. I got up the next morning and went to work like nothing happened.
- Translated by Nonye Nancy
After a Failed Marriage, I Meet My Current Husband, Experience God's Healing
