In traditional Chinese culture, filial piety holds great importance, emphasized even in the Ten Commandments as the basis for human relationships. Yet, real-life tragedies of conflict between parents and children, leading to filicide or attempted filicide, are not uncommon. One Christian woman named Li once harbored thoughts of killing her father but never acted upon them.
Li lived in a major northern city. Her father, who was diligent in managing the household, suffered from heavy work stress, long-term alcoholism, and some mental health issues, often resulting in irrational behavior.
After every bout of drinking, he would lash out at Li and her mother. During Li's high school years, as her body developed, her intoxicated father once attempted to sexually abuse her. Fortunately, her mother intervened, but she was severely injured in the process.
This incident led Li to contemplate killing her father. She even bought rat poison to lace his meal and considered ending her own life later. However, her mother discovered her plans and vehemently persuaded her against committing such a drastic act.
Consequently, Li left her parents and lived with her grandmother until she graduated from university. Her father, who had struggled with alcoholism for years, also had several other illnesses. Despite this, Li harbored deep-seated hatred toward him. Even when her father's life was in danger, she refused to visit him in the hospital.
Despite her unfortunate childhood, Li excelled academically and eventually found a good job. Her boss at the company happened to be a Christian. Over time, they developed a close relationship, becoming confidants.
Her boss shared the gospel with Li, emphasizing the profound love of Jesus. Lacking paternal love since childhood, Li swiftly embraced the gospel and became actively involved in church service.
Years later, one sleepless night, a voice compelled Li to reconcile with her father and forgive his faults. Despite resisting these feelings for several days, it was difficult for her to deny the overpowering force.
Li then prayed quietly, reflecting on the past thirty years. She realized immense work pressure led him to seek solace in alcohol as a release. Coupled with some mental health issues, his actions were often unconscious. Yet, he deeply cared for her, investing all his savings in her education, which enabled her to graduate from university.
Moreover, after quitting alcohol due to illness, he gradually stopped abusing her mother. Therefore, she intended to reconcile while her father was still alive and mend their relationship.
Following that Sunday service, she returned to her family's home after thirteen years of separation. During lunch, she had a heart-to-heart conversation with her aging father, sharing her experiences from the past decade. That very night, her father apologized for his mistakes, promising to change for the better.
The family reunited, and Li's parents also converted to the Lord, regularly attending the church's senior fellowship every week.
- Translated by Abigail Wu
在中国传统文化中，十分重视孝道，而圣书十诫中也把“孝敬父母”作为第一人伦。而在现实生活中，父母与子女的矛盾，子女不孝甚至杀害自己至亲的悲剧时常上演。一李姓女基督徒就曾经有弑父的想法，只是没有付诸行动而已，
李姐妹生活在北方某大城市，她的父亲勤恳持家，但由于工作强度大，长期酗酒，加上患有一点精神疾病，父亲经常会做出许多非理智的行动。
每次醉酒之后，他都会向李母女挥动拳头。而在高中时期，李身体开始发育，有次她父亲竟然在酒醉后，要对她做禽兽（越轨）之事。幸好母亲拦阻才没得逞，而母亲也因此被打成了重伤。
这件事之后，李萌生了杀害父亲的想法，甚至买了老鼠药，准备在饭菜里下毒，并想以自杀结束生命。可她的计划被母亲得知，在母亲的极力劝阻下，她才没有干出疯狂的事。
但从此她也离开了父母的家，而是与外婆生活了，这样的日子持续到大学毕业。而她父亲也因为常年酗酒而患上了不少疾病，但李姐妹对他充满刻骨铭心的恨，即使有次父亲生命垂危，她也没去医院看一眼。
李姐妹虽然童年不幸，但学习成绩一直不错，后来找到了一份好工作。而她所在的公司主管正好是一位基督徒。后来两人的关系十分密切，成为无话不谈的朋友。
这位主管向李姐妹传福音，告诉她耶稣的大爱。从小缺乏父爱的李听后很快就接受了福音，并在教会里参与事奉。
几年后的一天晚上，李姐妹总是翻来覆去睡不着。有一个声音告诉她，必须与她的父亲和好，宽恕他十几年来的过失。尽管好几天中，李姐妹总是想消灭这种感动，但这股力量的强大，让她难以拒绝。
李姐妹于是安静下来祈祷，回忆着这三十年来的往事。她感受到，父亲之所以如此，乃是他工作压力大，才通过酗酒来排解、发泄。加上有点精神疾病，才会无意识做一些罪恶的事。但父亲其实还是非常疼爱她的，因为他除了吃饭喝酒外，把所有的积蓄都用在了她身上，她能从大学毕业，十几年的学费都是父亲出的。
而且父亲因病而戒酒后，对母亲家暴的行为也逐渐消失了。因此她想趁着父亲有生之年，与他和好并友好相处。
于是李就在那个主日礼拜后，回到了阔别十三年的家，在午饭上，她与老父亲谈心，述说这十几年的生活。那天晚上，老父亲忽然向母女认罪，说自己很对不起她们，今后一定会改正。
一家三口和好如初，李的父母也都接受了福音，每周都参加教会的老年团契。
一位想弑父的女孩，是如何宽恕家暴的父亲的
In traditional Chinese culture, filial piety holds great importance, emphasized even in the Ten Commandments as the basis for human relationships. Yet, real-life tragedies of conflict between parents and children, leading to filicide or attempted filicide, are not uncommon. One Christian woman named Li once harbored thoughts of killing her father but never acted upon them.
Li lived in a major northern city. Her father, who was diligent in managing the household, suffered from heavy work stress, long-term alcoholism, and some mental health issues, often resulting in irrational behavior.
After every bout of drinking, he would lash out at Li and her mother. During Li's high school years, as her body developed, her intoxicated father once attempted to sexually abuse her. Fortunately, her mother intervened, but she was severely injured in the process.
This incident led Li to contemplate killing her father. She even bought rat poison to lace his meal and considered ending her own life later. However, her mother discovered her plans and vehemently persuaded her against committing such a drastic act.
Consequently, Li left her parents and lived with her grandmother until she graduated from university. Her father, who had struggled with alcoholism for years, also had several other illnesses. Despite this, Li harbored deep-seated hatred toward him. Even when her father's life was in danger, she refused to visit him in the hospital.
Despite her unfortunate childhood, Li excelled academically and eventually found a good job. Her boss at the company happened to be a Christian. Over time, they developed a close relationship, becoming confidants.
Her boss shared the gospel with Li, emphasizing the profound love of Jesus. Lacking paternal love since childhood, Li swiftly embraced the gospel and became actively involved in church service.
Years later, one sleepless night, a voice compelled Li to reconcile with her father and forgive his faults. Despite resisting these feelings for several days, it was difficult for her to deny the overpowering force.
Li then prayed quietly, reflecting on the past thirty years. She realized immense work pressure led him to seek solace in alcohol as a release. Coupled with some mental health issues, his actions were often unconscious. Yet, he deeply cared for her, investing all his savings in her education, which enabled her to graduate from university.
Moreover, after quitting alcohol due to illness, he gradually stopped abusing her mother. Therefore, she intended to reconcile while her father was still alive and mend their relationship.
Following that Sunday service, she returned to her family's home after thirteen years of separation. During lunch, she had a heart-to-heart conversation with her aging father, sharing her experiences from the past decade. That very night, her father apologized for his mistakes, promising to change for the better.
The family reunited, and Li's parents also converted to the Lord, regularly attending the church's senior fellowship every week.
- Translated by Abigail Wu
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