On the first day of the Chinese New Year, the movie "Hi, Mom" directed by Jia Ling, made some people laugh and cry.
The movie, adapted from a sketch comedy, was Jia Ling's directorial debut. She created it in memory of her mother, Li Huanying, who passed away unexpectedly. She put all her efforts into making it.
Most of the emotional scenes in the sketch were based on Jia's personal experience. Born in 1982, she is from Yicheng, Hubei Province. At the age of 19, she had just entered college for one month, receiving a phone call saying her mother had passed away.
After she became famous in an interview, Jia talked about this problem: her mother left before she couldn't see her dream come true, even watch her perform.
On the day the movie was launched, she posted on her Weibo account: "Three years of preparation, launching today. Some regrets are unavoidable. I always wanted to get all my heart desired. What a privilege to be able to do it again."
Every time she mentioned her mother, Ling could not help crying as her mother's departure was an unfortunate event. Many nights she remembered her mother's appearance. The more you watch the movie, the more you will feel how funny it was at the beginning, then how much sorrowful in the ending it was.
Children want to support and honor their parents, but they are no longer alive to receive the honor. I am afraid that it is not only Jia Ling's most challenging obstacle in her life but also ours.
"The trees long to be still, but the wind blows nonstop, the son wants to honor the parents, but they will not remain forever." No sentence is more painful than this. This sentence first came from the eighth chapter of "Confucius' Family Sayings, Volume 2, Zhisi 8". It was also stated in Volume 9 of "A Biography of Han Poems" (Wenjing Jin compiled by Han Ying in the Han Dynasty). Therefore, later generations use "the sadness of wind trees" as a metaphor for grief. It means that the tree wants to be still, but the wind keeps swaying it; the children want to provide support to their parents, but their parents are not alive to receive this support and have passed away. If the wind doesn't stop, it's the tree's helplessness. If the parents are not there, it's the children's endless sorrow.
After watching the movie, I wondered what my parents looked like when they were young and their life experiences. They endured all kinds of hardships to raise their children and sacrifice too much for them. They were once adolescents and also had their youth.
"When parents are alive, one still has an origin; when parents go, there is only a way back in life." This sentence is so real and heartfelt.
It would be interesting to participate in our parents' life experience in their youth and spend some time with them.
In real life, we see such reality: Your parents give you too much, you give your parents too little, they are willing to give you all, but they never want you to repay, they always pay attention to you, worry about your growth, worry about your marriage as well as cheer for your work. When your parents miss you, they shed tears, but they always smile, afraid you worry about them when they see you.
We need to remember that when our parents are alive, no matter how old we are, we are still children; when our parents die, our families will be separated, and we will be orphans.
This movie reminds us to be children: filial piety should be done as early as possible, the earlier, the better, no matter how much hardship we go through or how tired we are, no matter how much difficulty we face or how poor we are, we should remember to treat our parents well. We shouldn't wait; we can't afford to wait. Don't wait until the bitter days are over, and your parents are already old, and the happy days have just begun, but your parents are gone!
We need to know that parents get old when we least expect it. As children, we should not be stingy to express our love. In the limited days we have with them, I hope you can go home and have a look. If your work does not allow it, remember to make a phone call to show care.
There is a kind of love that is called "The tree may wish to remain still, but the wind blows nonstop; there is a kind of pain called, "the son wants to honor the parents, but they will not remain forever."
While there is still time, you should learn to love them as they love you!
- Translated by Nonye Nancy
大年初一，贾玲导演的电影《你好，李焕英》笑倒了一片人，也看哭了一片人。
这部影片根据小品改编，是贾玲的导演处女作。这部电影是贾玲为了怀念她意外离世的母亲李焕英而创作出来的，她几乎把全部的心血都投入在这部电影上。
小品中很多感人至深的情节设计，都源自贾玲的亲身经历。贾玲是湖北宜城人。1982年出生。19岁时，刚进入大学一个月的贾玲，接到电话：妈妈去世了。
成名后的采访中，贾玲谈过这个心结：妈妈还没能看到自己实现梦想，没看到自己成家立业，甚至没来得及看一次自己的演出，就离开了。
电影开机当天，贾玲在微博写道：“筹备三年，今日开机。难免有些遗憾，总想如愿以偿。可以重来，何其有幸。”
每次提起母亲，贾玲都会忍不住泣不成声，母亲的离开对她而言是个遗憾，很多次午夜梦回，她都会想起母亲的模样。 影片越往后看，你就会发现：前面有多好笑，后面就有多好哭。
特别感触：子欲养而亲不待，恐怕是贾玲，也是我们这一辈子最难以跨越的一道坎。
“树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不待。”没有哪句话比这句更让人痛心了。这句话最早出自《孔子家语·卷二·致思第八》；另外《 韩诗外传》卷九（汉朝韩婴编著的今文经学著作）里也有阐述。故后人便以“风树之悲”来借喻丧亲之痛。意思是说树想要静止，可是风却让他不停地摇曳；子女想赡养父母，父母却等不及已离开人世。风不停止，是树的无可奈何，双亲不在，是子女的无尽哀伤。
“父母在，人生尚有来处；父母去，人生只剩归途”，原来，这句话这么真实，这么扎心。
看完电影，我就在想，我的父母年轻时候是什么样子，他们的人生又是什么样的经历。父母含辛茹苦把子女养大，为子女牺牲太多，其实他们也曾是花季年龄，他们也有过青春时光。
如果我们可以参与到父母年轻时候的人生经历，和他们共度一段时光，该是一件多么有趣的事情。
在现实生活中我们看到这样一件事实：父母给你的太多，你给父母的太少，父母愿意把全部给你，他们却从不要你偿还，父母永远关注你，为你的成长忧愁，为你的婚姻担心，为你的工作加油。父母就是，想你的时候，流泪了，但看到你的时候，总是微笑，怕你担心他们。
我们要明白：父母在，你再大年纪，都是孩子；父母走了，家就散了，你也成为了孤儿。
这影片提醒我们做儿女的：孝顺要趁早，越早越好，再苦再累，再难再穷，都记得善待父母，别等，等不起。不要等到苦日子一点一点过完了，父母却老了，幸福的日子才刚刚开始，父母却走了!
要知道：父母正偷偷老去，在你不经意的时候。作为子女的我们，不要再吝啬表达自己的爱。在有限的日子里，希望你能多回家看看，如果工作不允许，也记得打一个电话送去关心。
有一种爱，叫树欲静而风不止，有一种痛，叫子欲养而亲不待。
趁现在还来得及，你要学着像他们爱你一样，去爱他们！
《你好，李焕英》火了：前面多好笑，后面就多想哭
On the first day of the Chinese New Year, the movie "Hi, Mom" directed by Jia Ling, made some people laugh and cry.
The movie, adapted from a sketch comedy, was Jia Ling's directorial debut. She created it in memory of her mother, Li Huanying, who passed away unexpectedly. She put all her efforts into making it.
Most of the emotional scenes in the sketch were based on Jia's personal experience. Born in 1982, she is from Yicheng, Hubei Province. At the age of 19, she had just entered college for one month, receiving a phone call saying her mother had passed away.
After she became famous in an interview, Jia talked about this problem: her mother left before she couldn't see her dream come true, even watch her perform.
On the day the movie was launched, she posted on her Weibo account: "Three years of preparation, launching today. Some regrets are unavoidable. I always wanted to get all my heart desired. What a privilege to be able to do it again."
Every time she mentioned her mother, Ling could not help crying as her mother's departure was an unfortunate event. Many nights she remembered her mother's appearance. The more you watch the movie, the more you will feel how funny it was at the beginning, then how much sorrowful in the ending it was.
Children want to support and honor their parents, but they are no longer alive to receive the honor. I am afraid that it is not only Jia Ling's most challenging obstacle in her life but also ours.
"The trees long to be still, but the wind blows nonstop, the son wants to honor the parents, but they will not remain forever." No sentence is more painful than this. This sentence first came from the eighth chapter of "Confucius' Family Sayings, Volume 2, Zhisi 8". It was also stated in Volume 9 of "A Biography of Han Poems" (Wenjing Jin compiled by Han Ying in the Han Dynasty). Therefore, later generations use "the sadness of wind trees" as a metaphor for grief. It means that the tree wants to be still, but the wind keeps swaying it; the children want to provide support to their parents, but their parents are not alive to receive this support and have passed away. If the wind doesn't stop, it's the tree's helplessness. If the parents are not there, it's the children's endless sorrow.
After watching the movie, I wondered what my parents looked like when they were young and their life experiences. They endured all kinds of hardships to raise their children and sacrifice too much for them. They were once adolescents and also had their youth.
"When parents are alive, one still has an origin; when parents go, there is only a way back in life." This sentence is so real and heartfelt.
It would be interesting to participate in our parents' life experience in their youth and spend some time with them.
In real life, we see such reality: Your parents give you too much, you give your parents too little, they are willing to give you all, but they never want you to repay, they always pay attention to you, worry about your growth, worry about your marriage as well as cheer for your work. When your parents miss you, they shed tears, but they always smile, afraid you worry about them when they see you.
We need to remember that when our parents are alive, no matter how old we are, we are still children; when our parents die, our families will be separated, and we will be orphans.
This movie reminds us to be children: filial piety should be done as early as possible, the earlier, the better, no matter how much hardship we go through or how tired we are, no matter how much difficulty we face or how poor we are, we should remember to treat our parents well. We shouldn't wait; we can't afford to wait. Don't wait until the bitter days are over, and your parents are already old, and the happy days have just begun, but your parents are gone!
We need to know that parents get old when we least expect it. As children, we should not be stingy to express our love. In the limited days we have with them, I hope you can go home and have a look. If your work does not allow it, remember to make a phone call to show care.
There is a kind of love that is called "The tree may wish to remain still, but the wind blows nonstop; there is a kind of pain called, "the son wants to honor the parents, but they will not remain forever."
While there is still time, you should learn to love them as they love you!
- Translated by Nonye Nancy
Chinese Movie "Hi, Mom": Funny Beginning, Yet Sorrowful Ending
