"People who want to move up in their careers, single people who want to find their lovers, lovers who want to get married, couples who want to improve their happiness, and parents who want to have a better parent-child relationship" are the target demographics of the "Emotional Intelligence Boot Camp" taught by Brother Zhao.
Brother Zhao says that there are six classes in the Emotional Intelligence Boot Camp, aiming to let students systematically learn to become a person who is good at communicating and loving.
As a lecturer who teaches others how to manage a happy life, Zhao himself experienced a marital crisis. In 2010, Zhao and his wife had just been married for a year when their relationship was full of tension and they were on the verge of getting a divorce. His wife, who was a Christian by then, allowed them to be separated but invited him to a course of "Gaotai EQ" as a memento. Brother Zhao agreed.
At that time, the participants studied and lived together for four days and four nights, and Zhao (who was not yet a believer at that time) was able to observe closely the lives of several Christian brothers and understand their life journey.
"We shared a room with some of our brothers, and I found that they were all far more brilliant than me and very religious. There was a brother who graduated from Tsinghua University. He had built several listed companies, and he was so humble and devout that he would kneel and pray there when others sit and pray. I wondered what kind of faith would attract such an excellent man. There was another brother who made a local enterprise into a listed enterprise in a very short time. He was also humble and is now a full-time pastor. There was another brother who was serving after studying theology. When I saw them, I became very interested in the Christian faith," Brother Zhao recalled.
Before that, Zhao had read a book about God's ten plagues. He could not understand how God could be so cruel. With this question, he asked a brother who lived with him. The brother patiently explained, "Look, God is full of love. Just think about it. What did he do with the first plague? What did he do with the second plague? Why would he kill the firstborns of Egyptians?" Brother Zhao was suddenly enlightened.
The learning experience changed Zhao's life. After the course, he started to believe in the Lord and reconciled with his wife. Today, they already have three healthy and happy children.
Since his life has changed completely, Zhao hopes to introduce such a great course to people around him, so as to let them know that life is not all beer and skittles. Over the past decade or so, he has become increasingly involved in promoting the Gaotai EQ program.
In addition, he and his fellow workers also organize in-church single fellowship events in different cities to help Christians get out of their single lives, to encourage single believers to build their faith in marriage. Recently, he has been contacting the leaders of the youth fellowship of various churches in Haikou City and plans to hold the event there.
- Translated by Nicolas Cao
“想在职场和事业上再晋升一步的人们、想脱单的朋友们、想结婚的恋人们、想提升幸福指数的夫妻们，以及希望亲子关系更加融洽的父母们”——这是赵弟兄主讲的“情商训练营”所面向的招生对象。据赵弟兄介绍，“情商训练营”一共六节课，旨在让学员通过系统学习成为会沟通的人，会爱的人，能爱的人。
作为一名教导别人经营幸福人生的讲师，赵弟兄自己也曾经历过婚姻危机。2010年，赵弟兄和妻子刚结婚一年，夫妻二人的关系充满张力，到了要分手的边缘。妻子当时已经是一名基督徒，她允许他们分开，但是邀请他一起参加“高台情商”课程，算是一个纪念。赵弟兄答应了。
当时参加课程的学员们四天四晚一同学习一同生活，赵弟兄（那时还未信主）也得以近距离观察到几个基督徒弟兄的生活，了解到他们的人生历程。
“我们一起上课的几个弟兄住一个房间，我发现他们都比我优秀，还特别虔诚。有一个弟兄是清华毕业的，他做了好几家上市企业，而且他那么谦卑和虔诚，别人坐着祷告，他跪在那儿祷告。赵弟兄好奇这么优秀的人是因为信仰的什么力量吸引着他。另外一个弟兄，曾经用很短的时间就把当地的一个企业做成上市企业。他也很谦卑，现在是全职牧师。还有一个弟兄，是上完神学以后再服侍。看到他们，我就开始对基督教信仰产生了极大的兴趣。”赵弟兄回忆说。
在那之前，赵弟兄从一本书中读到过上帝降十灾的故事，他无法理解上帝怎么那么残忍。带着这个疑问，他问了同住的一个弟兄。这个弟兄耐心地讲解说：“你看，上帝是充满慈爱的，祂第一灾降的是什么，第二灾降的是什么，为什么到第十灾是要击杀埃及人一切头生的……”赵弟兄听了豁然开朗。
那次的学习经历对赵弟兄的生命触动很大，课程之后他信了主，也与妻子重归于好。如今，他们已经是幸福的五口之家了。
赵弟兄的人生来到了彻底的改变，他也希望将这么棒的课程介绍给身边的人，让他们知道人生不只有吃喝玩乐。这十多年来，他越来越多地参与到“高台情商”课程的推广当中。
除此之外，他和团队同工们也在不同城市组织主内单身联谊活动，帮助弟兄姐妹们脱单；举办主内夫妻见证会，鼓励单身弟兄姐妹们对婚姻建立起信心。近期，他正联络海口市各教会的青年团契负责人，计划在这里举办脱单活动。
在主的爱中建立美好家庭
"People who want to move up in their careers, single people who want to find their lovers, lovers who want to get married, couples who want to improve their happiness, and parents who want to have a better parent-child relationship" are the target demographics of the "Emotional Intelligence Boot Camp" taught by Brother Zhao.
Brother Zhao says that there are six classes in the Emotional Intelligence Boot Camp, aiming to let students systematically learn to become a person who is good at communicating and loving.
As a lecturer who teaches others how to manage a happy life, Zhao himself experienced a marital crisis. In 2010, Zhao and his wife had just been married for a year when their relationship was full of tension and they were on the verge of getting a divorce. His wife, who was a Christian by then, allowed them to be separated but invited him to a course of "Gaotai EQ" as a memento. Brother Zhao agreed.
At that time, the participants studied and lived together for four days and four nights, and Zhao (who was not yet a believer at that time) was able to observe closely the lives of several Christian brothers and understand their life journey.
"We shared a room with some of our brothers, and I found that they were all far more brilliant than me and very religious. There was a brother who graduated from Tsinghua University. He had built several listed companies, and he was so humble and devout that he would kneel and pray there when others sit and pray. I wondered what kind of faith would attract such an excellent man. There was another brother who made a local enterprise into a listed enterprise in a very short time. He was also humble and is now a full-time pastor. There was another brother who was serving after studying theology. When I saw them, I became very interested in the Christian faith," Brother Zhao recalled.
Before that, Zhao had read a book about God's ten plagues. He could not understand how God could be so cruel. With this question, he asked a brother who lived with him. The brother patiently explained, "Look, God is full of love. Just think about it. What did he do with the first plague? What did he do with the second plague? Why would he kill the firstborns of Egyptians?" Brother Zhao was suddenly enlightened.
The learning experience changed Zhao's life. After the course, he started to believe in the Lord and reconciled with his wife. Today, they already have three healthy and happy children.
Since his life has changed completely, Zhao hopes to introduce such a great course to people around him, so as to let them know that life is not all beer and skittles. Over the past decade or so, he has become increasingly involved in promoting the Gaotai EQ program.
In addition, he and his fellow workers also organize in-church single fellowship events in different cities to help Christians get out of their single lives, to encourage single believers to build their faith in marriage. Recently, he has been contacting the leaders of the youth fellowship of various churches in Haikou City and plans to hold the event there.
- Translated by Nicolas Cao
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