Guangzhou Guangxiao Church held an online interview named “I Love My Family” which focused on family and parenting.
Live streamed on the evening of May 18, this interview mainly focused on child psychology aged 4-6, to learn how to communicate with them, and guide them correctly through the words of their parents.
Before the talk, Pastor Liu introduced the initial intention of opening the "I Love My Family" interview program. Then, Huan Li talked about child psychology aged 4-6 and parents' responses through three points: “great curiosity and always asking why”, “eager to learn” and “abstract thinking”.
Regarding the first part "great curiosity and always asking why”, Li said, "Children are no longer satisfied with the shallow answer but want to go deep and keep asking why.” When a child was curious about the world, it was the best time to guide them. Li gave some suggestions to guide children who have great curiosity: parents could read books with children, like the science book One Hundred Thousand Whys, to protect children’s curiosity and help them do further exploration in reality.
Eager to learn, children could get satisfaction through learning knowledge. Children aged 4-6 were good at using their hands and brains, such as calculating, making up stories, playing chess, and making crafts. Li suggested that parents should read more books to their children during this period of time so that they could feel the joy of reading.
The pastor continued that children have the ability to do abstract thinking, for example, they will put the pictures of apples and pears in one group since they are both fruits. Children may also ask why the sky is blue, where is the water out of the tap from, etc. Parents could play educational games with children like the logic dog, mathematical thinking training, etc.
“Parents should give children what they need based on their characteristics in different stages and help them to improve, in doing so, parents won’t have unrealistic expectations of their children.” Pastor Liu explained this point with Bible scripture and psychological knowledge.
"Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged." (Colossians 3:21) Pastor Liu exhorted parents with this Bible verse not to hurt their children's self-esteem, which would discourage them. Rather, they should be angels of blessing to their children.
Liu also corrected one mistake parents made often — they say words that hurt their children's hearts. Do not say to the children “You are so stupid” but say “you will improve soon if you find the way”. Do not say “You are so selfish” but say “You can try to consider others”. Do not say “You are a coward” but say “You still need to practice your courage”.
Besides child psychology, parents also needed to know the children’s personality types. Children with different personalities had different needs, and parents could help them accordingly. The four main personality types were dominant, influencer, stable and compliant.
“Parents need to constantly learn and renew their parenting knowledge. But it is Jehovah who changes people’s hearts. Parents should bring their children to God, which is the foundation of all methodology,” Li gave the final advice.
Pastor Liu also concluded, "As Christians, we should look to and seek the Lord even more so that we can raise our children according to His will."
- Translated by Katherine Guo
5月18日晚，广州基督教光孝堂举行了《我爱我家》家庭育儿主题线上访谈活动。
此次分享主要围绕4-6岁儿童心理特征，来学习如何与他们沟通交流，透过父母的言语来正确引导孩子。
交流前刘晨明子牧师介绍了开设《我爱我家》访谈活动的初衷。
随后，李环姊妹通过“好奇心很重，特别爱问为什么？”“很喜欢学习”“抽象思维”三点和大家分享了4-6岁孩子的心理特征，以及父母的应对。
一、好奇心很重，特别爱问为什么？
“不再满足于表面，而是要追根到底，会提出没完没了的为什么。”当孩子对这个世界感兴趣时就是引导她最好的时候。李姊妹在此给出了些建议：比如陪孩子读书，可以读《十万个为什么》科普书，保持孩子的好奇心理，进一步在现实中去探索。
二、 很喜欢学习
学到知识会感到满足。这个阶段的孩子比较擅长动手动脑，比如计算，编故事，下棋，手工。抓住这个时间给孩子多看书，让他们感受到读书的而快乐。
三、抽象思维
孩子可以根据概念分类，对苹果和梨的图片进行食物配对。他们也许会问天为什么是蓝色的，水龙头的水流到哪里去了？等等这类问题。父母可以带孩子玩益智游戏：逻辑狗，数学思维训练等。
根据孩子不同阶段的特点给他所需的，帮助其能力得到成长，同时也可避免家长产生不切实际的期待。对此，刘牧师也结合圣经和心理学知识进行了分享。
“你们作父亲的，不要惹儿女的气，恐怕他们失了志气。”（西3:21）通过这句经文牧师劝勉父母们不要伤害孩子自尊心，他们会因此灰心丧志。父母要成为儿女祝福的天使。
牧师也纠正了一些父母常会说出伤害儿童心灵的话：不要对孩子说“你怎么那么笨”，要说“找到窍门你很快就会进步了”；不要对孩子说“你真是自私”，要对他说“你可以试着为别人着想”；不要对孩子说“你是一个胆小鬼，要对他说"还需要锻炼你的勇气”。
了解孩子的心理特征后还需要了解孩子的天性，知道其不同性格有其不同需求。帮助父母做到对症下药。 提到孩子的性格有支配型和领导型，影响型，稳定型， 分析型和谨慎型。
“作为父母我们需要不断的去学习，更新我们的育儿知识。但是改变人心的是耶和华，我们需要的是把孩子带到上帝面前，这才是所有方法论的根基。”最后李环姊妹劝勉。刘牧师也总结到“作为基督徒，我们更要仰望主，寻求主，使我们能按照祂的心意教养孩童。”
广州基督教光孝堂家庭育儿主题访谈《我爱我家》：帮助父母认识4-6岁儿童心理及用正确语言引导孩子
Guangzhou Guangxiao Church held an online interview named “I Love My Family” which focused on family and parenting.
Live streamed on the evening of May 18, this interview mainly focused on child psychology aged 4-6, to learn how to communicate with them, and guide them correctly through the words of their parents.
Before the talk, Pastor Liu introduced the initial intention of opening the "I Love My Family" interview program. Then, Huan Li talked about child psychology aged 4-6 and parents' responses through three points: “great curiosity and always asking why”, “eager to learn” and “abstract thinking”.
Regarding the first part "great curiosity and always asking why”, Li said, "Children are no longer satisfied with the shallow answer but want to go deep and keep asking why.” When a child was curious about the world, it was the best time to guide them. Li gave some suggestions to guide children who have great curiosity: parents could read books with children, like the science book One Hundred Thousand Whys, to protect children’s curiosity and help them do further exploration in reality.
Eager to learn, children could get satisfaction through learning knowledge. Children aged 4-6 were good at using their hands and brains, such as calculating, making up stories, playing chess, and making crafts. Li suggested that parents should read more books to their children during this period of time so that they could feel the joy of reading.
The pastor continued that children have the ability to do abstract thinking, for example, they will put the pictures of apples and pears in one group since they are both fruits. Children may also ask why the sky is blue, where is the water out of the tap from, etc. Parents could play educational games with children like the logic dog, mathematical thinking training, etc.
“Parents should give children what they need based on their characteristics in different stages and help them to improve, in doing so, parents won’t have unrealistic expectations of their children.” Pastor Liu explained this point with Bible scripture and psychological knowledge.
"Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged." (Colossians 3:21) Pastor Liu exhorted parents with this Bible verse not to hurt their children's self-esteem, which would discourage them. Rather, they should be angels of blessing to their children.
Liu also corrected one mistake parents made often — they say words that hurt their children's hearts. Do not say to the children “You are so stupid” but say “you will improve soon if you find the way”. Do not say “You are so selfish” but say “You can try to consider others”. Do not say “You are a coward” but say “You still need to practice your courage”.
Besides child psychology, parents also needed to know the children’s personality types. Children with different personalities had different needs, and parents could help them accordingly. The four main personality types were dominant, influencer, stable and compliant.
“Parents need to constantly learn and renew their parenting knowledge. But it is Jehovah who changes people’s hearts. Parents should bring their children to God, which is the foundation of all methodology,” Li gave the final advice.
Pastor Liu also concluded, "As Christians, we should look to and seek the Lord even more so that we can raise our children according to His will."
- Translated by Katherine Guo
Guangzhou Church Launches Online Interview Themed on Family, Parenting
