Christian artist and singer G.E.M. once shared in her recent speech about how powerful belief was.
When delivering the speech "You Will Face What You Believe" on Star Talk in middle December 2019, she said, "For me, belief is very powerful, because I have experienced it."
The Christian celebrity has been learning classical piano since she was a child, but she often found it very dull to practice by reading scores. She preferred to improvise and often played nice small movements.
“Because in my mind, composers are some distant and sacred people. Anyway, I never thought that I could compose music one day", she says. "Until I was in junior high school, I saw some seniors making their own songs in the school song competition and winning the championship. That was so impressive to me. Since that day I believed that I could compose too. I started to write lyrics and music that night. My first composition was soon born, which is also the song that led me to become a singer."
So far, G.E.M. has composed more than 100 songs.
She has also shared that she had been bullied, criticized and lampooned. She was often lost and did not know how to deal with it.
"There was a time when everyone in social media said I was fat, and even my closest companion told me that I don't deserve to wear designer apparel. The small fine lines of the dress on the model look thick when I wear them."
Gradually, she believed that she was fat and became determined to lose weight.
"At that time, I exercised every day and didn't eat snacks at all. I ate boiled broccoli, scrambled eggs with tomatoes but without oil, salt or sugar, for each meal. At one time, I even ate 16 tomatoes a day. Although I looked healthy, my mood was very bad. I felt that my life was as boring as my taste buds. Whenever I gained one or two kilograms, I would not eat and drink at all for the next three days. Normally, the weight was lost by the fourth day, but I couldn't stand it anymore and felt that I had to overindulge. I couldn't stop eating even when I was very full, because I knew I would eat broccoli the next day. I had been in this vicious cycle for a long time."
Until later, she saw a sentence: "When we were little kids, we had the most innocent and strongest confidence in the world. We were not afraid to open our hearts and had no pressure. However, in the process of growing up, others' perspectives and comments erode us until we lost the last precious confidence."
G.E.M. began to find a way out. Finally, she walked out of the vicious cycle and "found the confidence back, which was crushed".
"Next time if someone says I am not beautiful or skinny enough, I know that is a lie which I should not believe. I would confidently say this is me. I don't think I am short of fat, no matter how people judge me. I don't overeat anymore. I listen to my body and eat when I am hungry and stop when I am full. I don't feel guilty after eating a big meal, but I usually don't overindulge too much."
Since then, G.E.M. maintained this mentality, so that she no longer lived with low self-esteem and depression. When she became very happy from the bottom of her heart, she naturally lost weight.
"I have made a very precious discovery over the years. Sometimes, who you believe you are may be more important than who you really are."
She said, "I always believed that I was a singer-songwriter. I worked hard to make music, which was also the only thing I did because I thought that I knew nothing but music."
"After I left the company, in addition to writing lyrics, composing, and singing, I began to be responsible for many things like music production, arranging, mixing, and even planning. I really didn't believe that I could do it a year ago. But driven by the environment, I had to believe in myself and tried to do it. I found that in addition to being a singer-songwriter, I can also be a creative director, a good producer, a good planner, or a good team leader."
G.E.M. also said that a middle-aged woman who was going through divorce appreciated her song "The Foam". The woman cycles the song and sheds tears when driving. She found out that there is someone who understands her sorrow. This song healed her wounds and brought her out of sadness.
She added, "I know the value of my existence. This woman gave me the answer: Lives affect each other. I also believe that it is not just me, it is also the mission of everyone. I believe that everyone's uniqueness is not only in their fingerprints, but also the impact they can bring."
"It may be as simple as a phone call or a hug during your busy work, which can affect your family and friends. Are greatness and success the only things that can make an impact? No. I wrote 'The Foam' when I was vulnerable, hurt, and broken. So, maybe every tear you shed also affects the people around you."
"It is impossible for one person or several people to change the world. If we want this world to become a better place with more love and hope, every one of us has to work hard together every day. I believe this world really needs you, especially you who believes in yourself."
- Translated by Yuehan Jiang
基督徒艺人、歌手邓紫棋在最近的演讲中分享,相信的力量是有多么的强大。
曾在《星空演讲》分享了主题为“你相信什么,就会朝向什么”的演讲,她说:“对我而言,这相信两个字的威力非常大。因为我自己就亲身感受过。”
邓紫棋从小就学习古典钢琴,但小时候她常常觉得看谱子练琴非常沉闷,她反而喜欢在钢琴上即兴乱弹,经常弹奏出很好听的小乐章。5岁的时候,邓紫棋就开始根据自己的想法来创作她有记忆以来的第一首歌了。可是,她却从来都不相信自己也可以成为作曲家一样的人。
“因为在我的印象里面,作曲家都是一些很遥远、很神圣的人。反正我从来不觉得我自己有一天也可以作曲。”她说:“直到我上初中,我在学校的歌曲比赛中见到有学姐们自己创作歌曲参加比赛,还得了冠军。这对我来说是很震撼的事情,我才发现原来作曲是一件我可以碰得到的事。自从那一天我就开始相信我可以作曲。当晚回去我就开始尝试写词、写曲。没多久我人生的第一首全词曲创作就诞生了。这也是把入行当歌手的机会带给我的作品。”
至今为止,邓紫棋已经写了超过100首的歌曲。
邓紫棋还分享曾经面临网络欺凌、吐槽和嘲讽,她常常是迷失的,不知道要怎么面对。
“曾经有一段时间全网都说我很胖,就连那时候我身边最最亲近的同伴也曾经跟我说过设计师的衣服不是你穿的。在模特身上的小细纹,穿到你身上就是一个粗线条。”
渐渐地,她就真的相信自己很胖,还立志要减肥。
“那时我天天做运动,不吃零食,三餐都是水煮西兰花、番茄炒蛋、不放油盐糖。最高峰的时候,我一天吃了16个番茄。但也只是表面上的健康,我的心情是很糟糕的。我每天都感觉我的人生好像我的味蕾一样乏味。如果我量体重稍微重了一两公斤,接下来的三天我就完全不吃只喝水,通常到了第4天体重是下去了,可是我就会忍受不了,觉得我要补偿我自己。我要往死了吃,我吃到很饱,还是一直吃、继续吃。因为我觉得我明天又要再吃西兰花了。我一直在这个恶性循环里面待了很久。”
直到后来,她看到了一句话:“当我们还是小屁孩的时候,我们拥有着全天下最天真、最强大的信心。我们不怕打开自己的肚皮,没有一点点的包袱。但是在长大的过程当中,别人的眼光、可畏的人言却一点点磨蚀了我们的信心。直到我们最珍贵那一份自信完全失落。”
邓开始找到了出路,走出了之前的恶性循环,“重新找到了曾经被人踏碎了的自信”。
“下一次有人说我不够美、不够瘦的时候,要相信这是一个我不该相信的谎言。带着最初的自信去说这就是我。无论别人怎么说我,我不再觉得自己矮胖矮胖。我也不再暴饮暴食,聆听自己的身体,什么时候饿了就吃,饱了就停。该庆祝的时候,吃了大餐也不会觉得有罪恶感。但是我平时也不会过分的放纵自己。”
从那时开始,邓一直都是维持这样的一个心态,让她不再活在自我价值非常低、每天很压抑的一个状态里。当她打从心底变得很开心,就这样很自然的瘦下来了。
“这些年来其实我有一个非常宝贵的发现。有时候,你相信你自己是谁可能远比你真的是谁更重要。”
邓紫棋举例说:“就像以前的我一直相信我是一个创作歌手,所以我就很努力做音乐。但是我也一直以为我只能是一个创作歌手,所以我一直都只做音乐。我曾经真的以为我除了音乐以外什么都不会。”
“直到我离开了公司,除了作词、作曲、演唱之外,我开始要负责很多东西,音乐的制作、编曲、混音甚至企划。这一切一年以前我真的都不相信我有能力做到。但是在环境的驱使下,我不得不相信自己,不得不尝试去做。我发现原来我除了是一个创作歌手,我也可以是一个创作总监、不错的制作人、不错的企划,又或者是一个不错的团队领袖。”
邓也分享,有一次因为一个在经历离婚的中年阿姨跑过来和她说,感谢写了《泡沫》这首歌,因为她会一边开车一边单曲循环这首歌一边流眼泪,发现原来有人懂得她的痛。这首歌抚平了她内心的伤口,带她走出来悲伤。
邓说:“我相信自己为什么存在?这个阿姨给了我答案,就是用生命影响生命。而我也相信不只是我,我们每一个人都带着同样这份使命。我相信每个人的独特不只是在指纹的独一无二。我相信每个人生在世上都有只有你才能带来的影响。”
“可能简单到在你繁忙的工作当中一通电话、一个拥抱,就已经可以影响你的家人朋友。你以为只有伟大的事情、成功的事情才可以影响到别人吗?不。我就是在自己最脆弱、最伤痛、最崩溃的时候,写了《泡沫》。所以,说不定每一滴你流过而擦干的眼泪也同样在影响着你身边的人。”
“改变世界,不可能一个人或者几个人的事。这个世界如果想要变得更美好,多一点爱、多一点希望的话,这只能是我们每一个人每一天一起影响身边的人所带来的结果。……我相信这世界真的差你一个。我相信这世界是需要你的,我相信这世界需要一个相信你自己的你。”
基督徒艺人邓紫棋做《星空演讲》:你相信什么 就会朝向什么
Christian artist and singer G.E.M. once shared in her recent speech about how powerful belief was.
When delivering the speech "You Will Face What You Believe" on Star Talk in middle December 2019, she said, "For me, belief is very powerful, because I have experienced it."
The Christian celebrity has been learning classical piano since she was a child, but she often found it very dull to practice by reading scores. She preferred to improvise and often played nice small movements.
“Because in my mind, composers are some distant and sacred people. Anyway, I never thought that I could compose music one day", she says. "Until I was in junior high school, I saw some seniors making their own songs in the school song competition and winning the championship. That was so impressive to me. Since that day I believed that I could compose too. I started to write lyrics and music that night. My first composition was soon born, which is also the song that led me to become a singer."
So far, G.E.M. has composed more than 100 songs.
She has also shared that she had been bullied, criticized and lampooned. She was often lost and did not know how to deal with it.
"There was a time when everyone in social media said I was fat, and even my closest companion told me that I don't deserve to wear designer apparel. The small fine lines of the dress on the model look thick when I wear them."
Gradually, she believed that she was fat and became determined to lose weight.
"At that time, I exercised every day and didn't eat snacks at all. I ate boiled broccoli, scrambled eggs with tomatoes but without oil, salt or sugar, for each meal. At one time, I even ate 16 tomatoes a day. Although I looked healthy, my mood was very bad. I felt that my life was as boring as my taste buds. Whenever I gained one or two kilograms, I would not eat and drink at all for the next three days. Normally, the weight was lost by the fourth day, but I couldn't stand it anymore and felt that I had to overindulge. I couldn't stop eating even when I was very full, because I knew I would eat broccoli the next day. I had been in this vicious cycle for a long time."
Until later, she saw a sentence: "When we were little kids, we had the most innocent and strongest confidence in the world. We were not afraid to open our hearts and had no pressure. However, in the process of growing up, others' perspectives and comments erode us until we lost the last precious confidence."
G.E.M. began to find a way out. Finally, she walked out of the vicious cycle and "found the confidence back, which was crushed".
"Next time if someone says I am not beautiful or skinny enough, I know that is a lie which I should not believe. I would confidently say this is me. I don't think I am short of fat, no matter how people judge me. I don't overeat anymore. I listen to my body and eat when I am hungry and stop when I am full. I don't feel guilty after eating a big meal, but I usually don't overindulge too much."
Since then, G.E.M. maintained this mentality, so that she no longer lived with low self-esteem and depression. When she became very happy from the bottom of her heart, she naturally lost weight.
"I have made a very precious discovery over the years. Sometimes, who you believe you are may be more important than who you really are."
She said, "I always believed that I was a singer-songwriter. I worked hard to make music, which was also the only thing I did because I thought that I knew nothing but music."
"After I left the company, in addition to writing lyrics, composing, and singing, I began to be responsible for many things like music production, arranging, mixing, and even planning. I really didn't believe that I could do it a year ago. But driven by the environment, I had to believe in myself and tried to do it. I found that in addition to being a singer-songwriter, I can also be a creative director, a good producer, a good planner, or a good team leader."
G.E.M. also said that a middle-aged woman who was going through divorce appreciated her song "The Foam". The woman cycles the song and sheds tears when driving. She found out that there is someone who understands her sorrow. This song healed her wounds and brought her out of sadness.
She added, "I know the value of my existence. This woman gave me the answer: Lives affect each other. I also believe that it is not just me, it is also the mission of everyone. I believe that everyone's uniqueness is not only in their fingerprints, but also the impact they can bring."
"It may be as simple as a phone call or a hug during your busy work, which can affect your family and friends. Are greatness and success the only things that can make an impact? No. I wrote 'The Foam' when I was vulnerable, hurt, and broken. So, maybe every tear you shed also affects the people around you."
"It is impossible for one person or several people to change the world. If we want this world to become a better place with more love and hope, every one of us has to work hard together every day. I believe this world really needs you, especially you who believes in yourself."
- Translated by Yuehan Jiang
Christian Singer G.E.M. Gives Speech: "You Will Face What You Believe"