The church in the urban area of Jingshan County, Hubei Province has designated May to June each year as family months. During the nine Sunday services in these two months, the pastor shares information about marriage and family.
On June 28, Rev. Sun Fengli shared the four points on the theme of "Managing a Blessed Family".
Whether we are married or not, marriage and family are very important to each of us. In recent years, more social organizations have begun to pay attention to family issues and hope to give guidance on how to build a happy family that is blessed by God. (cf. Genesis 2:18-24)
When you look at conflict in marriage and families, it is obvious that most couples need to deal with many issues: raising children, taking care of older family members, work and career, and financial needs. When dealing with these issues, couples are inclined to deviate from the problem itself and attack faults in each other’s character. Their biggest problem is not money, nor communication, or even marriage, but, in fact, the lack of God as first in their lives. For this reason, everyone wants others to agree with their own ideas, and this leads to arguments.
Sinners are self-centered, but love is altruistic. How can the Christian faith change a self-centered person into one who is altruistic? The first discipline is to "have the same mindset as Christ Jesus". If we can train our minds to be like Christ as the basis of our faith, then we can learn to more easily love and accept others unconditionally, which is a necessary part of a successful marriage.
The order in the family is: the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, and God is the head of Christ. A blessed family requires everyone to be in the right position. If not, the family will have problems.
If we value our spouses from a biblical perspective we can resolve many conflicts. Some people may say: “He is really not as good as I am. How can I value him above myself?" God did not create a perfect person and put all the good characteristics into only one person. If he is weaker than I am in this aspect, then he is stronger in some other aspect. We need each other. Beauty is found everywhere. Our eyes do not have a lack of sense of beauty, but a lack of observation.
- Translated by Elaina Wu
湖北一教堂家庭月礼拜：经营一个幸福美满的家庭
湖北省京山县城区基督教堂将每年5-6月定为家庭月。在这两个月共九个主日崇拜中，该堂牧者分享了关于婚姻家庭方面的信息。
6月28日主日崇拜，孙凤丽牧师以“经营一个幸福美满的家庭”为题分享了经营家庭的四要素。
婚姻家庭对于我们每个人来说，都是非常重要的，不论你是已婚还是未婚，家庭对你来说都至关重要。近年来，越来越多的社会机构开始关注家庭问题，盼望透过研究，能更好地引导人们来经营一个幸福美满的家庭。（创世记2：18-24）
从身边的家庭纠纷来看，大多数夫妻在婚姻关系中需要处理很多问题：孩子问题、老人问题、工作问题、财务问题。在处理这些问题的时候，夫妻往往会偏离问题本身，进而互相攻击或冷战。其实，他们最大的问题不是钱，也不是沟通，甚至不是婚姻关系出了问题。而是婚姻中没有神，没有让神居首位。每个人都想让对方认同自己的想法，于是争执不下。
每个人都以自我为中心，然而爱却是利他的。基督信仰如何改变一个以自我为中心的人，最初的操练就是“以基督的心为心”。我们若能在信仰里操练以基督的心为心，就容易学会无条件的爱和接纳，而这是幸福婚姻必须具备的条件。
家庭里的次序是：男人是女人的头，基督是教会的头，神是基督的头。因此，经营幸福的家庭需要每个人都找准自己的位置，若是角色混乱，家庭一定会出问题。
用圣经的视角看待配偶，可以解决许多家庭矛盾。或许有人说：“这个人的确不如我，我怎么能觉得他比我强呢?“ 神没有创造完美的人，神没有把所有的优点都放在一个人身上，这是要让我们彼此需要。他就算这方面比你弱，在另外一方面也有比你强的。这个世界不是缺少美，而是缺少发现美的眼睛。
The church in the urban area of Jingshan County, Hubei Province has designated May to June each year as family months. During the nine Sunday services in these two months, the pastor shares information about marriage and family.
On June 28, Rev. Sun Fengli shared the four points on the theme of "Managing a Blessed Family".
Whether we are married or not, marriage and family are very important to each of us. In recent years, more social organizations have begun to pay attention to family issues and hope to give guidance on how to build a happy family that is blessed by God. (cf. Genesis 2:18-24)
When you look at conflict in marriage and families, it is obvious that most couples need to deal with many issues: raising children, taking care of older family members, work and career, and financial needs. When dealing with these issues, couples are inclined to deviate from the problem itself and attack faults in each other’s character. Their biggest problem is not money, nor communication, or even marriage, but, in fact, the lack of God as first in their lives. For this reason, everyone wants others to agree with their own ideas, and this leads to arguments.
Sinners are self-centered, but love is altruistic. How can the Christian faith change a self-centered person into one who is altruistic? The first discipline is to "have the same mindset as Christ Jesus". If we can train our minds to be like Christ as the basis of our faith, then we can learn to more easily love and accept others unconditionally, which is a necessary part of a successful marriage.
The order in the family is: the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, and God is the head of Christ. A blessed family requires everyone to be in the right position. If not, the family will have problems.
If we value our spouses from a biblical perspective we can resolve many conflicts. Some people may say: “He is really not as good as I am. How can I value him above myself?" God did not create a perfect person and put all the good characteristics into only one person. If he is weaker than I am in this aspect, then he is stronger in some other aspect. We need each other. Beauty is found everywhere. Our eyes do not have a lack of sense of beauty, but a lack of observation.
- Translated by Elaina Wu
Family Service in Hubei Church: Manage a Blessed Family
