Recently, Gospel Times, a Chinese Christian newspaper, interviewed Pastor Wu Bing from a church in northeastern China on how to best deliver pastoral care in the post-pandemic era.
Issues were discussed such as "the relation between pastoral care and counselling," "how to carry out therapy for believers during the CPVID-19 outbreak," and "how to view depression."
Pastor Wu Bing is the holder of a master’s degree in theology issued by Nanjing Union Theological Seminary where he worked on the teaching staff after he graduated. Currently, he’s the senior pastor of Dalian Xishan Church. He has more than 20 years of experience in pastoral care, certified for Grade Two in the Examination of National Psychological Consultation. Meanwhile, he’s a registered expert of the Dalian Municipal Psychological Consultants Association.
Gospel Times: Many Christians think that psychological problems can be solved by praying – no need to see a psychiatrist. Among them are the believers who have encountered unprofessional counsellors and received no benefit. That encounter causes a negative attitude towards counseling. What do you think of the connection between Christian faith and psychology?
Pastor Wu Bing: Will Christians suffer from mental illness? Can they turn to counselors for help? Or is it just by reading the Bible, praying, and depending on God to solve all problems? The word psychology is derived from Greek. It is a study of the soul. Paul once said, may your spirit, soul, and body be well protected and guarded.
The Church used to believe that when a person was physically ill the patient didn’t need to take medicine. However, it is well known that Paul once told Timothy that his appetite problems could be solved by having a little wine, and Timothy might have been suffering from diarrhea. The wine was used as a medicine for his stomach problem. Neither did the Lord Jesus Christ reject the medication. The Bible mentions how the Good Samaritan rescued a severely wounded man by pouring wine and oil on his wounds. The wine was sterilizer and the oil was used to nourish the body. The Samaritan didn’t say ‘get up in the name of Jesus’ but he used medicine to help. That means that the gift of God to a doctor's healing work is parallel to the gift of prayer in faith.
Christians need to see a doctor when ill but remember to pray too. I was sick once and the doctor told me that for a month I couldn't get out of the hospital, but I sang hymns and prayed in the hospital. In a week and a half, I was released and the doctor was surprised. There was the supernatural power of God at work.
The same is true of our souls. When we believe in the Lord, is there no time when our souls are hurt? Yes, there is. When you believe in Jesus and go to church, your family complains because they don't understand your faith. They keep complaining and your suffering is not dealt with. Bit by bit, you may have psychological problems accumulating. By the way, have you come across such cases? People have locked the door and they go downstairs but are worried that the door wasn’t locked, so they go back to check. Then they go down again but come back again to check. They repeat it a few times. This is actually a mild obsessive-compulsive disorder. Can this bad habit be changed on your own or by praying?
A mature Christian who relies on God is certainly able to prevail, but most believers are far from full maturity and need counseling to get out of some spiritual damage. It is also one of the ways in which God works.
Some Christians are badly influenced by the past, some grow up in an unfortunate family or some live in an immoral family later in their lives. When you’re psychologically ill you need to see a psychiatrist just as you need to see a physician when you’re physically ill. There are a lot of biblical teachings that are related to psychology, but it’s just that they aren’t termed as counseling and psychology. Many of them are analogies to psychology. For instance, Paul once said, rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. This instruction is called "empathy" in psychology. A book of pastoral counseling suggests that good theology is a prerequisite of good psychology. If faith and psychology can be well combined and practiced, many people can benefit.
Many Christians wonder whether they should accept the ideas of the many psychologists who aren’t Christians and are sometimes even hostile to the Christian faith. Calvin pointed out long ago that many atheists, pagan scientists, artists, and philosophers were inspired by the Holy Spirit so we have no reason to refuse them.
Augustine said that as long as what was said was right it was the truth, no matter who the speaker was. The Bible says: Don't be deceived, all gifts of goodness and kindness are from the Father. We should learn to use the gifts that God has given us to serve those in need.
Gospel Times: Now dealing with the pandemic has become the new normal. Under this circumstance, how do we carry out pastoral care for fellow believers?
Pastor Wu Bing: First of all, this outbreak has had a big impact because the church has not been able to meet as normal, but it's a reminder that the Church is going to be transformed. Some time ago, a sister said: "In the past, I could go to church once a month, but thank God now I can listen to sermons on a smartphone every day." From this point of view, how can a church deliver better care for brothers and sisters in modern society? Attention should be paid to online communications because a lot of people can be helped online.
Secondly, we used to pay much attention to collective gatherings but neglected the individuals. After a service, the pastor was too busy dealing with church affairs to give enough care to individuals. They could at best pray a short prayer with you. And now a better and personalized care is possible. A lot of believers are phoning me. Some phone calls last for 40 minutes, and I can better listen, comfort, and help them.
Thirdly, God lets us pause to reflect on the past services. A lot of times there is no time for reflection. When we resume, re-evaluate and re-start, we’ll re-adjust our ministry.
Gospel Times: For now, depression is a big problem. Pastor Wu, have you encountered fellow believers who suffer from depression? How do you counsel them?
Pastor Wu Bing: Depression is a serious mental illness and the treatment of depression requires professional counseling and treatment.
The more serious problem for patients of depression is that on the surface they seem to be all right but there is darkness inside. They don’t seek help while they’re mentally ill. Medicine can help solve the problem of depression. More profoundly, every patient who suffers from depression has a past that needs to be dealt with. There are issues in their family or in their family history which counselors need to analyze when they provide treatment.
A family once brought their child to me for counseling after the child was was diagnosed with depression in a hospital. Later I found out that the information provided by the family was problematic. The child resented the parents and needed help. In fact, the patient needed to learn to face and deal with the long-term damage caused by her parents. She had to admit the problem and learn tolerance for her parents. When the child did so, the child was relieved and healed. The relationship with the parents was restored and they lived well together.
Usually, it’s the problematic parents who are the root of their child’s problems. So when I rebuke a lot of parents who bring their children to me, they don't understand why they should be blamed for their children’s problems. Many parents' education methods are too rigid and harsh, which bring harm to their children.
Everyone will have negative emotions and hurts which will become depressed when they are accumulated for a long time. Then, that’s a problem. To Christians, if your negative emotions are going on for more than three months and seriously interfere with your normal life, be sure to see a professional psychiatrist if reading the Bible and prayer don’t help you improve.
I’d like to recommend a book Conquer Your Depression, of which the author has many years of counseling experience. Hopefully that can be helpful to someone.
- Translated by Charlie Li
【专访】后疫情时代,如何更好开展心灵关怀?
近日,福音时报撰稿人毋忠毅弟兄就“后疫情时代如何更好开展心灵关怀”这一话题,跟大连西山福音堂吴兵牧师展开对谈。
话题涉及“牧养与心理咨询的关系”、“疫情期间如何对弟兄姐妹进行心理关怀”、“如何看待抑郁症”等。
吴兵牧师是神学硕士,曾在金陵神学院留校任教,现任大连西山福音堂主任牧师,在牧会方面有20多年的经验,而且取得国家二级心理咨询师的资质,也是大连市心理咨询师协会的入库专家。
毋忠毅:很多基督徒认为,有心理问题祷告就可以了,不需要看心理医生;也有基督徒,遇到过不专业的心理咨询师,看了没效果,也对心理咨询持否定态度。对基督教信仰与心理学的联系,您怎么看?
吴兵牧师:基督徒是否会患上心理疾病?是否可以运用心理咨询的方式?还是只是靠读经、祷告,靠上帝解决一切问题呢?心理学这个词,psychology,来自希腊语,是关于魂的学说。保罗曾说过,愿你的灵、魂、体得蒙保守。
教会过去有一个观念,认为一个人身体得了生病,不用吃药。但是大家知道保罗曾跟提摩太说,胃口不爽可以用点酒,当时提摩太可能是拉肚子,用葡萄酒对拉肚子起到药的作用。主耶稣基督也不排斥用药。《圣经》中提到,一个人被打得半死,好心的撒玛利亚人把酒和油倒在伤口上,酒杀菌,油是起到滋润身体,他没有说,奉耶稣的名叫你起来,而是用药。说明上帝赐给医生医治的恩赐,与信心祈祷的恩赐是并行的。
基督徒患病需要医生,但也不能忘记祷告。我有一次生病了,医生说没有一个月不能出院,但是我在医院又唱歌,又祷告,结果一个半星期就好了,医生也很惊奇。是有超自然的大能的。
我们的魂也是这样。我们信了主之后,我们的魂就没有受伤的时候吗?有。当你信耶稣,来教堂礼拜,家里人因不理解而说你,不断不断说,你的难受得不到处理,积攒到一个地步,可能就有了心理问题。另外,有些人会不会遇到过这个问题?出门时门已经锁好了,下楼后担心没锁好,回去看,已经锁好了,走后又想是否锁好了,又回去看,如此反复,这个其实就是轻度的强迫症。这个不良习惯,靠着你自己的力量,或者靠着祷告就能把它改掉吗?
一个成熟的基督徒依靠上帝是一定能够胜过,但是大多数的弟兄姐妹远远达不到完全成熟的程度,需要运用一些咨询和辅导方式,帮我们走出一些心灵的伤害。 这也同样是上帝工作的方式。
有些基督徒,因为过去生活的影响,从小生活在一个不幸的家庭,或者现在在一个不良的家庭,心理上出现疾病和身体的疾病是一样的,需要心灵上的医治和关怀。圣经里面有很多的教导,只是不叫心理咨询和心理学,但是很多是触类旁通。比如保罗曾经说过,与喜乐的人同喜乐,与哀哭的人同哭,这在心理学叫“共情”。 有一本教牧辅导的书籍这样写道:良好的神学是良好的心理学的前提。如果信仰和心理学能够很好地结合起来,可以帮助很多很多人。
很多基督徒疑惑,许多心理学家不是基督徒,甚至有时候敌对基督教信仰,他们的理论我们是否可采纳?加尔文早就说过,很多的无神论、异教的科学家、艺术家、哲学家,他们创造出来的东西也是圣灵的恩赐,我们没有理由拒绝。奥古斯丁说,不管是谁说的,只要是对的,都是真理。圣经说:不要看错了,一切美善恩赐和良善的赏赐都是从众光之父来的。我们应当学习运用上帝的恩赐,来服侍有需要的人。
毋忠毅:现在疫情进入到常态化防控的状态,在这个阶段如何对弟兄姐妹进行心灵的关怀?
吴兵牧师:首先,这次疫情对我们教会的线下聚会是很大的冲击,但是却提醒我们教会要转型。前段时间开堂了,一个姐妹说:“感谢神,过去我在家里,一个月到教会听一次道,现在天天在家里面打开手机可以听道。”从这个角度,我们教会如何在现代社会当中更好关怀弟兄姐妹?应当注重线上交通,虽然教堂停止聚会了,但借着线上,可以帮助很多人。
其次,过去我们太注重聚会,缺乏对个别弟兄姐妹的牧养。过去聚会结束之后,牧师忙于处理教会事物,缺乏对个别弟兄姐妹的关怀,最多只是帮你做个简短祷告。而现在可以更好个别性牧养。现在很多信徒打电话找我,一个电话打了40分钟,我可以更好地倾听、安慰、帮助他们。
第三,上帝让我们暂停下,反思对过去的侍奉。很多时候,不暂停,不能反思。当再重开聚会的时候,重新评估,重新再出发,对我们事工进行调整。
毋忠毅:对现在来说,抑郁症是很大的问题,吴牧师有没有碰到患抑郁症的弟兄姐妹?如何给予辅导?
吴兵牧师:抑郁症是一种比较严重的心理疾病,对待抑郁症,需要专业的咨询和治疗。
很多抑郁症患者更严重的问题是,内心一团黑暗,表面上装的阳光,心里有疾病但自己不说,不寻求帮助。医药能够帮助解决抑郁的问题。更深刻的是,每一个抑郁的患者,其实都有一个严重的生活背景,有原生家庭或者情景的刺激,这就需要心理咨询师进行专业的心理分析。
我遇到过一个案例,曾经一个家庭把孩子带到我这里咨询,孩子被医院诊断为抑郁症。后来我发现,这个家庭对孩子的教养有问题,这个孩子内心对父母怀有很大的怨恨,他需要一个释放,实际上是要学习面对和处理父母长期给她造成的伤害。一是承认,二是饶恕,当她这样做了,就得到释放、医治,后来和父母关系也恢复了,生活的很好。
一个有问题的孩子的背后,常常是有问题的父母。所以很多父母来到我这里,我会说他们,但是他们不能理解孩子有问题怎么会责怪他们。很多父母的教育方式太过生硬,会给孩子造成伤害。
每个人内心当中都会有负面的情绪、伤害,积攒久了,心里会抑郁,就会成问题。对于基督徒来说,如果负面情绪超过3个月,严重干扰正常生活,靠读经、祷告仍不能解决,一定要找专业的心理医生。
在这里给大家推荐一本书——《胜过忧郁》,这本书是作者在多年对抑郁症患者辅导的基础上写成的,能够给抑郁症患者一些帮助。
Recently, Gospel Times, a Chinese Christian newspaper, interviewed Pastor Wu Bing from a church in northeastern China on how to best deliver pastoral care in the post-pandemic era.
Issues were discussed such as "the relation between pastoral care and counselling," "how to carry out therapy for believers during the CPVID-19 outbreak," and "how to view depression."
Pastor Wu Bing is the holder of a master’s degree in theology issued by Nanjing Union Theological Seminary where he worked on the teaching staff after he graduated. Currently, he’s the senior pastor of Dalian Xishan Church. He has more than 20 years of experience in pastoral care, certified for Grade Two in the Examination of National Psychological Consultation. Meanwhile, he’s a registered expert of the Dalian Municipal Psychological Consultants Association.
Gospel Times: Many Christians think that psychological problems can be solved by praying – no need to see a psychiatrist. Among them are the believers who have encountered unprofessional counsellors and received no benefit. That encounter causes a negative attitude towards counseling. What do you think of the connection between Christian faith and psychology?
Pastor Wu Bing: Will Christians suffer from mental illness? Can they turn to counselors for help? Or is it just by reading the Bible, praying, and depending on God to solve all problems? The word psychology is derived from Greek. It is a study of the soul. Paul once said, may your spirit, soul, and body be well protected and guarded.
The Church used to believe that when a person was physically ill the patient didn’t need to take medicine. However, it is well known that Paul once told Timothy that his appetite problems could be solved by having a little wine, and Timothy might have been suffering from diarrhea. The wine was used as a medicine for his stomach problem. Neither did the Lord Jesus Christ reject the medication. The Bible mentions how the Good Samaritan rescued a severely wounded man by pouring wine and oil on his wounds. The wine was sterilizer and the oil was used to nourish the body. The Samaritan didn’t say ‘get up in the name of Jesus’ but he used medicine to help. That means that the gift of God to a doctor's healing work is parallel to the gift of prayer in faith.
Christians need to see a doctor when ill but remember to pray too. I was sick once and the doctor told me that for a month I couldn't get out of the hospital, but I sang hymns and prayed in the hospital. In a week and a half, I was released and the doctor was surprised. There was the supernatural power of God at work.
The same is true of our souls. When we believe in the Lord, is there no time when our souls are hurt? Yes, there is. When you believe in Jesus and go to church, your family complains because they don't understand your faith. They keep complaining and your suffering is not dealt with. Bit by bit, you may have psychological problems accumulating. By the way, have you come across such cases? People have locked the door and they go downstairs but are worried that the door wasn’t locked, so they go back to check. Then they go down again but come back again to check. They repeat it a few times. This is actually a mild obsessive-compulsive disorder. Can this bad habit be changed on your own or by praying?
A mature Christian who relies on God is certainly able to prevail, but most believers are far from full maturity and need counseling to get out of some spiritual damage. It is also one of the ways in which God works.
Some Christians are badly influenced by the past, some grow up in an unfortunate family or some live in an immoral family later in their lives. When you’re psychologically ill you need to see a psychiatrist just as you need to see a physician when you’re physically ill. There are a lot of biblical teachings that are related to psychology, but it’s just that they aren’t termed as counseling and psychology. Many of them are analogies to psychology. For instance, Paul once said, rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. This instruction is called "empathy" in psychology. A book of pastoral counseling suggests that good theology is a prerequisite of good psychology. If faith and psychology can be well combined and practiced, many people can benefit.
Many Christians wonder whether they should accept the ideas of the many psychologists who aren’t Christians and are sometimes even hostile to the Christian faith. Calvin pointed out long ago that many atheists, pagan scientists, artists, and philosophers were inspired by the Holy Spirit so we have no reason to refuse them.
Augustine said that as long as what was said was right it was the truth, no matter who the speaker was. The Bible says: Don't be deceived, all gifts of goodness and kindness are from the Father. We should learn to use the gifts that God has given us to serve those in need.
Gospel Times: Now dealing with the pandemic has become the new normal. Under this circumstance, how do we carry out pastoral care for fellow believers?
Pastor Wu Bing: First of all, this outbreak has had a big impact because the church has not been able to meet as normal, but it's a reminder that the Church is going to be transformed. Some time ago, a sister said: "In the past, I could go to church once a month, but thank God now I can listen to sermons on a smartphone every day." From this point of view, how can a church deliver better care for brothers and sisters in modern society? Attention should be paid to online communications because a lot of people can be helped online.
Secondly, we used to pay much attention to collective gatherings but neglected the individuals. After a service, the pastor was too busy dealing with church affairs to give enough care to individuals. They could at best pray a short prayer with you. And now a better and personalized care is possible. A lot of believers are phoning me. Some phone calls last for 40 minutes, and I can better listen, comfort, and help them.
Thirdly, God lets us pause to reflect on the past services. A lot of times there is no time for reflection. When we resume, re-evaluate and re-start, we’ll re-adjust our ministry.
Gospel Times: For now, depression is a big problem. Pastor Wu, have you encountered fellow believers who suffer from depression? How do you counsel them?
Pastor Wu Bing: Depression is a serious mental illness and the treatment of depression requires professional counseling and treatment.
The more serious problem for patients of depression is that on the surface they seem to be all right but there is darkness inside. They don’t seek help while they’re mentally ill. Medicine can help solve the problem of depression. More profoundly, every patient who suffers from depression has a past that needs to be dealt with. There are issues in their family or in their family history which counselors need to analyze when they provide treatment.
A family once brought their child to me for counseling after the child was was diagnosed with depression in a hospital. Later I found out that the information provided by the family was problematic. The child resented the parents and needed help. In fact, the patient needed to learn to face and deal with the long-term damage caused by her parents. She had to admit the problem and learn tolerance for her parents. When the child did so, the child was relieved and healed. The relationship with the parents was restored and they lived well together.
Usually, it’s the problematic parents who are the root of their child’s problems. So when I rebuke a lot of parents who bring their children to me, they don't understand why they should be blamed for their children’s problems. Many parents' education methods are too rigid and harsh, which bring harm to their children.
Everyone will have negative emotions and hurts which will become depressed when they are accumulated for a long time. Then, that’s a problem. To Christians, if your negative emotions are going on for more than three months and seriously interfere with your normal life, be sure to see a professional psychiatrist if reading the Bible and prayer don’t help you improve.
I’d like to recommend a book Conquer Your Depression, of which the author has many years of counseling experience. Hopefully that can be helpful to someone.
- Translated by Charlie Li
Interview: How to Best Deliver Pastoral Care in Post-pandemic Era